Ask Me Help Desk - Am I pregnant

Hello my name is donna I am 15 years old and I have been trying with my boyfriend who is 17 we both want a baby so much and I know I am unlegal to have sex but come on look at the youngsters who are having a child at the age of 13 well here's my question anyway I think I am pregnant but I don't wanto take a test yet I'm tierd all the time and always moody with my boyfriend I don't have morning sickness and I haven't had my period this month am I pregnant if not how can I get prgnant quicker please help me?

What a ridiculous, immature thing to do! So other stupid teens are having children at 13 so you think that makes it OK?

How are you going to support this child? Especially when your boyfriend goes to jail as a sex offender? Are you aware that at 15, your body possibly has not fully developed enough to safely give birth? So you are risking not only your life but the child's! Do you realize how much work and cost is involved in having a child? You will not be able to hang with your friends anymore. You will have problems finishing school. Your boyfriend (if he doesn't go to jail), probably won't be able to finish school so is probably looking at a lifetime of low paying jobs.

I don't know if you are pregnant, you will have to take a test about 2 weeks after missing your period, but for your sake I hope you are not. I hope you wake up to what a foolish thing you are doing.

You both want a baby so much, huh? You won't be saying that if it actually happens... you'll change your mind then and it will be too late. Who's going to support you and the baby? Do your parents know this is your goal? I bet they'd be overjoyed to find out.

Wake up already.

I have a suggestion, why don't you see if you can volunteer at a local child care center. Make sure to ask to volunteer in the toddler/baby group. After a few days of seeing what it is REALLY like to have to care for a baby you might change your mind. Actually, I'm sure you would change your mind.

A 'baby' isn't a 'thing' to want, like a new pair of shoes or something, a baby is an actual person - you're sure you're ready to be taking care of another person? - at 15?

Do you have a job, or your own place? Who buys your food, or pays for your doctors visits? Pretty sure it's your parents. You are 15, and you still need to be taken care of. How realistic is it that you could, or more importantly should, take responsibility of another persons life when you still need help with your own? Think about it.

(This sounds really mean - I apologize for that, I don't usually rant, but your post is so ridiculous it had to be done)

I get the feeling that many kids have the impression that having a baby is like having a puppy or a kitten... all cute and adorable with nothing else but feeding to do. There is so much more involved than that and it's too bad they don't realize it until it is way too late.

It sounds like you have what I had at that age -- baby hunger. They are sooooooooooo cute and sweet and cuddly, aren't they--and would make you and your boyfriend the perfect family.

Let me clue you in.

Well, my mom did me a favor when I was 15. She got pregnant and had my brother Philip. Since my mom had other children and a house to take care of, Philip's care fell to me. I was in 7th heaven! NOT!! Lots of poopy diapers (cloth ones, not disposable--too expensive), lots of diarrhea, a colicky always-crying baby (the formula didn't sit right in his stomach or I was holding the bottle wrong)--I couldn't wait until the school bus showed up each morning and dreaded hearing the final bell at the end of the school day. I couldn't stay after for clubs or cheerleading or any fun because I had to get home to take care of Philip. I had no life. Yeah, he was cute, but I really didn't care at that point. Two years later, I finally escaped and went away (far away!) to college.

That experience cured me. I didn't have my own baby until I was married and 25 with a job and money in the bank.

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(This sounds really mean - I apologize for that, I don't usually rant, but your post is so ridiculous it had to be done)

Don't apologize, you made a very good suggestion and your reactions to this girl are right on.

I, too, really hope you are not pregnant. You aren't old enough to be a single mother, let alone a mother at all. Yes, you will be a single mother when your 17 year old boyfriend goes to jail for statutory rape, then, after that, he probably won't be allowed to be around your baby, if you have one, because he will be a sex offender for the rest of his life.

Now, let me give you the medical lowdown. Pregnancy is not easy for a girl of your age. It's actually quite painful. As your body grows you back will begin to hurt, as your pelvic bones begin to spread in preparation for labor you will be in a great deal of pain and discomfort.

Girls your age have a high risk for pregnancy induced hypertension (high blood pressure), this can cause seizures and is dangerous to the baby. The only cure for this is immediate delivery of the baby. Most of the time by a surgical cesarean section.

Another risk is pregnancy induced diabetes. There is a risk you will get diabetes and have to prick your finger several times a day to test your blood sugar. If your blood sugar is too high, you might have to give yourself shots in the abdomen several times a day to bring your blood sugar down.

Now, your body is still growing and doesn't know how to adequately grow you AND a baby. So most likely the baby will be born early and be low birth weight. Sometimes these babies have to stay in the hospital for days or even months. How are you going to afford that bill? Your parents will not be responsible for that bill, you will.

Babies don't make a relationship better, actually at your ages, they make the relationship worse. If I had a nickel for every time I saw a relationship break up while the mom was still in the hospital, I would be rich and wouldn't have to deliver babies anymore.

Babies do not love you unconditionally, they are incapable of love at the beginning. They depend on you... only you. If you don't do the right things they can get sick, they can die. I'm not exaggerating, I've seen it when I have worked in the ER. It's called Failure to Thrive.

Donnalovesnicky, get your head out of the clouds. Neither you or your boyfriend is ready for a baby.

As for telling you how to "get prgnant quicker," that would be against the morals of this site. Why don't you ask your Mom how to "get prgnant quicker" and see what her response is.