Ask Me Help Desk - Why doen't she seem to get into the moment?

Hi everyone, the problem I'm having is that me and my girlfriend (currently 7 months together or so) don't get into the whole sexual mood. And well it's really frustrating on me because I am a very sexual person and a sweet guy, most girls say I'm the "perfect boyfriend" which I think it's exagherated so I'm not a douche and I actually care about her a *****ing lot so dumping her is not an option (I hope).

My girlfriend masturbates (I know because she told me) and there were moments when I would grab her boobs and massage her ***** (with her clothes on -.-) but like recently it's all just not going anywhere and her efforts of making this relationship "fun" are terrible.

I think it's unfair for her to tell me that she is a sexual person in the first place because she doesn't seem like it. But now that she has told me I just can't stop to try to get her to want me. I feel sometimes that she is just using me to fill up the "boyfriend area".

I need help from anyone. Just as long as you had much experience onthis kind of topic,thank you.

Everyone is sexually different. Be open to her and tell her what exactly do you want, but it is totally her decision whether she wants the same thing or not.

If you are frustrated, let her know. Tell her the reason of your frustration.

You cannot make anyone to have sex with you just because you want them. Also putting too much importance on it may actually ruin your relationship.

I am not very sure what you mean by

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I feel sometimes that she is just using me to fill up the "boyfriend area".

Communication is the key here. Let her know whatever it is that you feel.

I really don't think you should try to force her or anything because that MITE lead to the worst case scenarios. Besides she's not objecting to your touch so I don't think that thr is much problem frm her side.. maybe she's just not mentally prepared for it.
Btw have you ever discussed about the frustration that you feel when she doesn't give you the response you want? It mite help you understand her mentality better!