Boyfriend loves me but wants to take a break.
I've been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. Things have been going well, but after something happened on Thursday, he tells me he wants a break. He told me that when he didn't want to help me when I was having problems that day, he knew something was seriously wrong.
I saw him Saturday and he told me that he loves me and he cares about me, but he needs time to sort out his feelings and to be alone. He said that a break up might be on the table, but he needs time alone right now. And that's what scares me the most.
He said he loves me, and he's just needs time alone. He also said that he wants to see if I can be happy alone since my happiness depends a lot on him being around. I've been in the middle of serious clinical depression since I've been away from him and my mom at college, and I just want to be home and with them.
I'm freaking out, and after reading this site I've decided to try NC, but I'm very upset and scared. I texted him a bunch on Sunday and now that's it's Monday, I'm afraid that the texts in Sunday have pushed him away and NC might be too late.
I don't think he'll leave me but with break up on the table and many posts on this site telling me it could happen too, I'm really scared. He said he loves me, cares about me, and will text me a little during our break to make sure I'm okay.
Is he going to leave? Should I do NC? I'm really in need of help.
I should also add that before his decision for a break, I texted him and called him several times a day. I was somewhat clingy. He'd text if he could, but a lot of our text conversations were one sided because I'd text a few messages while he was at work or busy and he'd respond when he could.