Her and I are best friends. We've been friends for almost three years now. We hung out pretty much every other day this past summer. When her boyfriend broke up with her back in July, I was there for her right away. We became really close friends. We've hung out A LOT. I've hung out with her more than anyone else in my entire life. At first I tried to suppress my feelings for her, because of her break up. But I finally couldn't hold it in anymore, so I told her. She took it well, but simply told me we were just best friends. I then became depressed. I felt that I couldn't be friends with her, because I would see her, and my feelings would come back. I got over this. We hangout all the time now, but she's always talking about her ex, which makes me feel like **** because I really like her, and her ex broke her heart in the worse way. She's always talking about these "hot" guys, and how all guys are jerks. She always tells me I'm so cute and stuff like that. When I told her I liked her, she said it was sweet but "We're best friends."

Well what do you expect of just best friends? Is it her fault you got all wrapped up in feelings for her and tried to act on those feelings? How can you even think you can be a friend with these very deep feelings that has you wanting more?

Can't you see that hanging out everyday has stopped you from having a life of your own, and made her your whole world? Stop it guy, as you are not a true best friend, you are her emotional tampon, like a "girl" friend to her, and you expect her to want romance because you helped her get over a failed relationship? It seldom works that way, and you need other things to do on your own without her, to break the addiction, and unhealthy emotional tie to this person.

You simply be less available to her, and build other things to do, and over time you will have a life that you enjoy, without her. For sure when she is healthy herself, and completely over her failed relationship, someone will catch her interest, and she will no longer have time everyday for you. Nor will she be heart broken about this change as you are.

Take heed, you are stuck and in a very bad situation here. Remove yourself, and get a life of your own, and explore your other options and opportunities at real happiness, and stop being her emotional crutch, with this best friend crap.

You are in the friend zone. It is the most deadly zone in the world reason being you will never get out. Now the only way to get out of that zone is death, granted that sounds harsh, it is the truth.

Now to you it probably doesn't make sense that you do all this stuff for her or rather with her and she doesn't want... and shed rather be with the jerks? That's because women love unpredictability, the 3 years you spend with her lack any of that. There is a whole lot more involved, but I won't get into that right now. You can buy her G4 plane and she'll still go for the jerks. It is what it is.

Now I do have a solution for you but it is a long shot and it requires time and effort. First you need to get a girlfriend and once you get this girl, you need to tell your friend the following words

"I have feelings for you and I will always have them. I understand u don't share the same for me, I know its going to sound selfish but I believe it is the right decision for me. From this moment we will no longer be friends, my feelings for u are too strong and I think it will not be fair to my new girlfriend, I'm sorry if it hurs and ill understand if u hate me."


If u decide to go with my advice ill give the second part

Thank you both for your help. I thought it was sort of harsh sounding, but what you say is true. I probably should move on, but it's hard, since we are very good friends. Perhaps I'll just isolate myself from her for a while, until my feelings for her subside.