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  • Feb 18, 2012, 03:35 PM
    vbgirl13
    Is it illegal to have a 15yr old girl date a 25 year old guy
    A guy is 25 and I am 15 and I was wondering if it's illegal to date him just out of curiosity thanks
  • Feb 18, 2012, 03:38 PM
    Alty
    Depends on what your parents say.

    If they're okay with the two of you dating, and nothing else, then it's not illegal. It's immoral, in my opinion, but that's about it.

    If the two of you are sexual in any way, or your parents don't agree with the two of you dating, then it's illegal.

    I have to ask. What does a 25 year old adult have in common with a 15 year old child?
  • Feb 18, 2012, 03:39 PM
    Curlyben
    There are no laws governing dating, but what does an ADULT have in common with a CHILD is another question entirely..
  • Feb 18, 2012, 03:48 PM
    ScottGem
    As noted, there are no laws that cover dating. Is this a relationship you just dream about or has this 25 yr old made any indication of being interested in you romantically?

    The fact is that a 25 yr is unlikely to be interested in a 15 yr old for anything other than sex. And such a person is likely to be sick and a pervert.

    Have you talked to your parents about this?
  • Feb 18, 2012, 04:14 PM
    vbgirl13
    I was just wondering and I have been thinking about it and I am not romantically involved with him my dad would flip out if I was he is a good friend and we have a lot in common so that's why I put the question up like I said out of curiosity
  • Feb 18, 2012, 04:19 PM
    J_9
    I know you are mature for your age... we hear that all the time, but what do the two of you have in common? Is he still in high school too?
  • Feb 18, 2012, 04:20 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by vbgirl13 View Post
    I was just wondering and I have been thinking about it and I am not romantically involved with him my dad would flip out if I was he is a good friend and we have a lot in common so that's why I put the question up like I said out of curiosity

    What do the two of you have in common? He's an adult, you're a child. What can the two of you possibly have in common? You're in school, he's hopefully working, or in college.

    I was married at 24! He's old enough to be married and have children of his own. You're not even old enough to vote. You would even have trouble finding a job as most places won't hire anyone under the age of 16.

    If your dad would flip out, then you have your answer. If your parents aren't okay with their child dating an adult, then you can't legally date.
  • Feb 18, 2012, 04:21 PM
    J_9
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Alty View Post
    What do the two of you have in common? He's an adult, you're a child. What can the two of you possibly have in common?

    Don't forget, she's mature for her age!
  • Feb 18, 2012, 04:22 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by J_9 View Post
    Don't forget, she's mature for her age!

    Aren't they all? I was mature for my age too, until I actually became mature. Then I realized how immature I actually was at 15.
  • Feb 18, 2012, 04:24 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by J_9 View Post
    Don't forget, she's mature for her age!

    Where does she say that?
  • Feb 18, 2012, 04:27 PM
    J_9
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    Where does she say that?

    She hasn't yet, but they all do. And for some reason I don't have smilies any more!
  • Feb 18, 2012, 04:27 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    Where does she say that?

    She really doesn't have to WG. We all know it's coming. That's the only way she can justify dating an adult.

    She either has to tell us that she's very mature for her age, or he's very immature for his age.

    She's 15. We know the M.O. off by heart by now.
  • Feb 18, 2012, 04:34 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by J_9 View Post
    She hasn't yet, but they all do. And for some reason I don't have smilies any more!

    I was going to ask about that!

    Did they get rid of the smilies?

    I can't find them. I thought I'd lost them.

    I can still do the happy face with : ) or the frowny with : ( but for the others I need the list, and it's gone. :(
  • Feb 18, 2012, 04:44 PM
    vbgirl13
    The guy is actually 24 sorry that was a typo I was just asking also in general if that's illegal
  • Feb 18, 2012, 04:48 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by vbgirl13 View Post
    The guy is actually 24 sorry that was a typo I was just asking also in general if that's illegal

    Doesn't matter if he's 24 or even 18. He's still an adult, and you're still a child, or are you actually 18 and not 15?

    If your parents say no, it's not legal. Even if they say yes to you dating, that doesn't mean they condone or agree to a sexual relationship.

    You already said that your dad would "flip" so you have the answer to your question. You cannot legally date this guy.
  • Feb 18, 2012, 06:24 PM
    vbgirl13
    He is working I have a job and he isn't seeing anyone I just asked a question if it's legal or not and I'm not saying I like the guy like that he is a good friend and we just were talking about this . And I don't need all this stuff about me being posted and yes I am very mature for my age I have been through some stuff that most people haven't and we both play volleyball competively and he helps train me and our families are very close so shut up I was asking a question it's a crush that any girl would have if they saw him he was there for me in a rough time and by the way he is a college graduate I just asked a question

    They haven't ever agreed and I asked if it was legal or not for someone of my age to date someone of his age I will be turning 16 in a month or so and I was just asking

    By the way I never said it would be anything to do with a sexual relationship I was just curious if it's legal or not
  • Feb 18, 2012, 06:39 PM
    ScottGem
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by vbgirl13 View Post
    yes I am very mature for my age I have been through some stuff that most people haven't

    Oh geez, BOTH the mature for my age AND the been through stuff most people haven't. We hit the jackpot!

    What you fail to understand is that we adults have been through it. We remembers how mature we felt as teens. And remember learning a few years later how wrong we were.

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by vbgirl13 View Post
    and we both play volleyball competively and he helps train me

    This makes it worse. Since he is in a position of authority over you, the law would come down even harder on him.

    But I'm going to assume this guy is more mature and smarter than you. And that if he found out you had a crush on him, he would distance himself from you because he doesn't want to go to jail.
  • Feb 18, 2012, 06:48 PM
    talaniman
    I hope the guy is mature enough to know you are jail bait, and will be next year also, no matter how mature you are now, or what you have been through before.
  • Feb 18, 2012, 06:49 PM
    Alty
    LMAO! You're mature for your age and been through stuff most people haven't? Want to compare pasts? I bet I win in the "been through stuff most people haven't" category, and I can tell you, even after having been molested from the age of 5 and for years after, I still wasn't mature at 15. If anything, my experiences, which include being raped, beaten, and more, made me less mature, and more willing to do stupid things that weren't good for me. So don't try to play that card with me. I've actually lived that life.

    You asked if it was legal, we answered. So what more do you want to know? Why are you arguing about it? If your parents don't want their 15 year old dating a 24 year old, it's not legal. Asked, answered, done.
  • Feb 18, 2012, 06:52 PM
    vbgirl13
    All I wanted an answer for was if it is illegal for a 15 yr old to date a 24 year old and I don't have to explain what I have been through to you I am not going to date him and I was just curious if it was legal gosh!!

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