Hi I'm a sikh girl age 28.I'm in love with a maharashtriyan guy age 32 from last 5 years.we love each other so much.problem is that my boyfriend is handicapped from 1 leg as he had polio .and he is from lower middle class family and I'm from upper middle class.he is educated and working as a manager in good company .he loves me a lot and cares a lot.I wanted to marry him but my parents and brother is against of this because of his disability,please suggest me how to convience my parents.

If you love and care about him it's up to you on who too marry if he is a lot of work because he is handicapped just be ready for that during your marriage . That might be the reason your family does not want you to marry him if he makes you happy go for it and your family will have to live with it best of luck I hope you get married

Vbgirl, this particular question is not about what the OP wants. The fact that she mentioned caste is a sign of her religion and her beliefs. In her culture it's not as easy as doing what you want, and making your family accept it.

In her religion parents have been known to kill a daughter that goes against their wishes.

In order for her to marry this guy she has to have her parents permission and acceptance, which is why she's asking how to go about gaining that acceptance from her parents.

I know in your culture it is difficult to get your parents agree for an inter-caste marriage, and your boyfriend having a disability makes it more difficult. From what you've said, your parents already know of your relationship.

Are they trying to marry you to someone else of their choice? I hope not.

Try to gently but firmly convince them that you'll be happy only with this man, and his disability will not hinder you from having a good and satisfactory life.

All the best.

I married a man with Cerebral Palsy and had my parents full approval. This decision is not one to take lightly. While my husband said that he was not defined by his handicap... there are some things that you simply can not deny.

I made a mistake. I will not be continuing the marriage. He "Depends" on me MORE than he ever Loves me. He has many more health problems than he at first revealed and I will not be physically able to care for him as he gets older.

I am only with him now because I feel sorry for him. Trust me... this decision may seem like it highly involves your parents... but it will not be your Parents that will spend the rest of their days in the same house and sharing a life with him.

Hope this gives you something to think about.