One year ago I started dating that girl, while she had a boyfriend and they were living together; we were very attracted to each other. I started to grow feelings for her. After few months she seemed a bit distant and we never went out again, but we kept contacting each other on the internet and sometimes by phone. Few weeks ago she broke-up with her (he caught her having dinner with another guy); and since then we got back very close, we went out; I tried to be by her side; but she is saying that she cannot be more than friends right now, she cannot be in a romantic relationship, not with me and not with anyone else... but she is constantly meeting with male friends, the same as she is meeting with me... I don't know if anything of what I wrote makes sense; but I feel like she doesn't want to lose me and at the same time saying that we should be "just friends for now"... any comments?

You're convenient, if you told her you never wanted to see her again because you felt you was being used she'd soon change her mind and want to meet with you again, she's a player, likes all the attention without the commitment, she can't commit, as you said she met with you and then someone else while dating another guy. Run a mile and don't stop running.

She could be just not wanting anything serious at this point... but considering that she was dating you while in a relationship with someone else, and that she was then seemingly dating some other guy while still involved... well, to me that is someone you wouldn't want to get tied up with anyway. What are the chances that she would do the same thing to you? Pretty high I'd say. Someone like that will probably be doing that to anyone they wind up with. Best for you to stay away.

She cheated and got caught. It ended her relationship and now she is realizing that she doesn't want a committed, exclusive relationship right now. Easy to understand. She likes you and likes going out with you. She may even see you as a friend. She doesn't appear to be leading you on.

On the other hand, you seem to want more than casual dating and friendship. I would say that you are on the edge (if not over it) of leading yourself on. If you can't be friends and accept that she isn't looking for more, then move on. You are the one who is in control of your feelings and actions. She can't make you stay. You can't make her want more.

Take care of yourself.

She cheated on her boyfriend with you. Now that she broke up, she still doesn't want to be with you. Sounds to me that your best bet is to find someone else who isn't a cheater and who actually likes you back.

Why force the issue with someone who doesn't feel the same way?