So I had a great date with this guy (I'm 22 and he's 26), and he messaged me the next morning saying that he felt a connection and asked if we should get together again sometime. I responded by saying that I agreed and that would be great (without giving a specific date because I wanted to let him chose it), my reply was a bit flirtatious (nothing terrible, just a wink and x to close the email).

So 3 days have passed and he hasn't called/messaged to set up the actual date. Did I scare him off by being flirtatious? Or was my reply too vague? Should I call/message him if I don't hear from him or should I just wait?

This seems a bit desperate but I so rarely meet a guy I actually like..

Although you obviously do not want to chase him I think that you deserve a response from him (if indeed he is interested).

I would call him (not text him). Simply start by asking simple questions; how are you? What's going on lately? I really like the place we went to the other evening...

Essentially don't bring up anything about why he didn't respond unless he does. If he does then good, if not well that may tell you something. I would definitely play it cool.

Stringer (guy)

I say wait for a week. If nothing happens, just drop in a casual text. I don't think you've scared him off. On a positive, he might not have responded because maybe he is planning a bigger better date with you, and is busy with preparations!

Ok, as a guy I am going to tell you, you did not mess up anything. Putting a smiley face or X on an email will not affect anything, he will either want to go out again or not. Signs point to him asking you out again, but, if you really like him, I would see no harm in messaging him in a few days or a week. Some guys like playing "the game" where they wait a few days to call or message, I don't do it, but in the dating world sometimes it is a necessary evil. My advice to you would be to not let this affect you; if he calls you - then maybe you will date him again, if he doesn't - there are lots of other guys out there who would love to date you.

There's no way to know what he's thinking. It's possible that he doesn't want to see desperate either. It's not fun when both are playing mind games with each other. If you don't hear from him in a week, then I would drop him a casual text (like a "how's it going?" to let him know that you're still thinking of him. That way, the ball would be back in his court to make the next move. If he still doesn't try to set up a date after that, then chances are he's not interested.