Hey guys I'm killing myself over this, but I really love this girl, and she loves me, but just this week she told me she's not ready, and said that she took things too fast. So she wanted us to start all over again as friends.

But she's to attractive, and I love her. Its hard to be "just friends". And just this week, me and my friends were playing basketball, and she was eyeing my best friend. I don't know what I should do.

Well, if she is not ready, there is hardly anything that you can do about it. I know once you've fallen for someone it's hard to be just friends. Try taking things slowly this time, and make sure she's comfortable about it all.

All the best.

Take her word for it and don't push her. Matter of fact, the less time you spend on her the better you will be because I think she was just nicely letting you down. More fish in the sea fella, and not worth hurting yourself over.

NO!! I mean, it's so secret that guys are NOT programmed to backtrack like that. It makes no sense. If anything it would just be better to take a break than to start over like that. I don't see the logic behind it... whatever floats your boat. Different strokes for different folks but... yea. Maybe she has some inner struggles going on that she needs to work on away from you. She seems a bit closed off too. There's simply nothing you can do if she isn't willing to 100% open up to you. My guess seeing that I'm a girl is that she may feel a bit guilty about something you guys may have done in the past. Only thing I can think of. But yea. Doesn't seem like you're getting the full story and without it there's nothing much you can really do.

Soft Summer,

I agree with you, when you say, "Maybe she has some inner struggles going on that she needs to work on away from you. She seems a bit closed off too."

It can be anything, so we can't be sure about anything yet. It is time to wait and watch, and not be quick or for quickfix solutions. Not? Do you agree?