Me and my ex girlfriend was happy together or that's what she seem to put across to me when I was with her everyday. I was working and then I was traveling through to see her every night which was a 40 minute drive but she wanted me to go through every night so I did. Then I started acting like a jealous d**k head by deleting lads numbers of her phone I have never acted like that with any other lass and I can't really explain why I did that to her.

Even though she was constantly talking to other lads behind my back and not telling me but I knew she had a lot of lad mates. Anyway she dumped me and I made all the mistakes after that by phoning her up constantly and texting her but she had made her mind up and that's that. I found out 2 days after she broke up with me she was going out with another lad she told me at first that it was for a laugh but then she turns around and says she is actually going out with him and she is "happy". I don't know if she was trying to rub it in my face that she was happier than me or she was putting a front on.

Them 2 have being going out for 2 months now and I stopped all contact with her its being a month since I last contacted her but I still can't stop thinking about her. I have being doing things to keep my mind off her but it doesn't seem to work. I know I should move on but it's easier said than done.

Just wanted to know if there is a slim chance of her contacting me again?

What's the point? You're not her priority anymore. Let her go and continue to meet new people.

As painful as it is, you will recover from it. Try not to hold on to the past, cause she's not the same person that you fell for.

I know we have both changed but I am still willing to talk to her on friendly terms and I have no intention of getting with her after she could that and not even consider to give me another chance, but I just want to be back on talking terms with her but I know that if I contact her I will come across as needy and that I am still not over her which I know I am not really over her still but I am getting there. I don't whether I should try contacting her or just waiting until she contacts me if she ever does.

Leave her alone guy, you have made your mistakes, and now you need to recover from them and don't repeat those mistakes next time. Its only been a month since last contact, so go for two. Of course you miss her voice, and company. Natural, but give yourself a chance by giving yourself more time.

Find other things to do to rebuild your life with friends, and activities, because trust me, talking to her, and trying to just be a friend before you are emotionally ready, is a disaster. Why? Because it will be pure misery when you find out she is happy doing her thing without you. So the chances she calls you are slim. The chances she wants to be friends, or come back, are even slimmer. So get your life in order without her.

Being "just friends" with someone you dated does not work! Moving on with your life is for your best interest. Why do I say being "just friends" with your ex doesn't work? Reason is... you have memories with this person. Things you did together. Times you spent together. The intimacy you shared with that person is just rehashed over and over again in your head until it becomes an obsession. You can give yourself false hopes that there could be a second chance when there possibly isn't one.

It is really hard when you the relationship is over. It's a loss. A type of grieving process that you need to go through. It does take time. Day-by-day things will get better. There is someone out there that will share the same love for you. You have to move on. Press foreword. No looking back. When you are ready again... you could possibly meet the person of your wildest dreams. YOur ultimate soul-mate. Now isn't that something to look forward too?

It may seem easier said than done, but what's the point of staying in talking terms? You won't be able to close up your wounds if you stay in touch.

If there's a chance for you two to be friends in the future, it will happen naturally, it shoudn't feel so forced.

We don't know if the day will come that you will be friends again, but why put your hopes on something that may never happen?

Focus your attention on meeting new people. You've learned a lot from this past relationship, let someone else benefit from what you've learned.

Continue growing as a person and keep on being a better person going forward.

Just want to say thanks for the advice from my last question and I have being getting on with my life and I am not bothered about her no more but she just text me a month and half after last time I contacted her asking if that was my mobile number but I deleted her number and I didn't know it was her so asked who it was and she told me and I just said OK. It doesn't seem to make any sense asking a stupid question like that I mean I was hoping she would get back in contact in my last question I posted on here but I have moved on now but then out of blue I get a text of her. I just don't see the point in asking a question like that when its obvious she knew it was my number and she hasn't said anything after that either she was drunk or she is losing the plot.

What do you lot think about that?

You don't think about it. Erase the number again, change your number, and keep progressing.

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either she was drunk or she is losing the plot.

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Or lonely, and needed attention. Or even curious as to what you are doing since she dumped you. Or just BORED. Unless she tells you more, don't worry about it, or look back in curiosity yourself, or confusion.

There's no way to read her mind. Even though she looked for you, there's no follow-up on her end anyway. Actions speak louder than words, her actions don't seem to indicate that she wants to reconnect with you at the moment, so no need to read more into it..