Hello I was in foster care from the age of 14 to only the age of 16 but before then we had social services involved for about 3 years previous. I carry a lot of blame on my shoulders as my mother blamed me for us going into care. I do not speak to my mum as she does not want to know me. I was a bit of a rebel but nothing out of the ordinary. I know my mum has mental health problems and she drinks a lot also we were neglected but I need to know answers. I cannot ask her. I now suffer with depression myself and I cannot seem to let go of the past until I have answers from my questions, my father passed away when I was 10 otherwise I could have asked him. Can anyone help? Xx

What are your questions?
By Essex, do you mean in England? This is a world site.
How old are you now?

Oh I did not realise lol, yes england I am now 24 :)

Yes. Jackie, what sort of questions do you have? Questions regarding your foster care ? We can try to help but don't think we can be of much help with the foster care questions.

Questions as in:

Why was I put in care?
Was it my fault?
What was my mothers illness?
& some other more personal ones

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Well he's the answers the council and social services will give you

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was it my fault?

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No not at all.

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why was I put in care?
What was my mothers illness?
& some other more personal ones

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We cannot discuss these matters with you due to Data Protection reasons.
They may tell your mother, as it is data that relates to her directly.

OK thank you anyway.

That's a real shame I guess I will never know :( x

I'm sorry it wasn't better news.
The only way you will know the true reasons would be by getting your mother to approach social services and making a formal request for all the case notes.

Don't be sorry...

My mother would never do that.

Thank you again x

Jackie, contact Essex foster care, tell them you were in foster care, and when talk to a cousellor. We can't do this for you. Good luck and let us know how you faired.