Well to begin I'm 16 years old boy and a junior in high school and I'm currently dating and girl who is 13 years old who's only in 8th grade. We've have dated in the past and we've learned how to love each other. Actually we're each other first love and we are very committed to each other but to continue on to my question. I'm happy with my relationship not thinking about are age difference but I just want to know you'll opinion on the fact of the matter, should I an 16 year old boy be dating an 13 year old girl? Just to clear up something's, her mother and father knows that I'm dating their daughter and there no problem with it. This girl has been my best friend forever an I'm always around her family daily if this matters. But do you think I should be in a committed relationship with this girl who is 3 years younger than me?

I don't think either one of you should be in a committed relationship. You have so much living to do and school to attend to before you even think of falling in love and committing.

I am assuming you two have sort of grown up together, are comfortable with each other and that's great, but it isn't love, it is a close friendship.

You are the older and have to pull the reigns in.

Before she gets too tied up in you with a serious crush, back off and think about this. You are an older teen.

As far as her parents go, they should get a reality check on this too and curb the relationship.

When she is 18 or 19 and you are 21, it is great, if she was 17 and you were 20, that is not even that bad.

But right now, she is 13, and honestly have no business dating ( serious dating)

@tickle To give you more knowledge on what I stated above but yes I understand what you mean but If you find love you can't determine who it is with or at what age the person is who you find it with. I'm sure that your grown I'm sure you understand this and I'm sure that you understand that people say love without understanding the concept of the word and with this relationship we understand the meaning of love and all of it's attachments. Also I have already stated that we are EACH OTHER first love so I don't believe that this could turn into anymore of a serious crush. JUST SO YOU CAN UNDERSTAND THIS A LITTLE BIT MORE SCHOOL AND PERSONAL LIFE DO NOT INTERTWINE WITH EACH OTHER JUST AS YOUR JOB AND YOUR PERSONAL LIFE WOULDN'T.

To conclude with a reply to your final statement just to give you something to think about - IF YOU HAD A DAUGHTER WOULD YOU WANT THEM GOING WITH A BOY WHO IS ONLY THREE YEARS OLDER THEN THEM WHO RESPECTS NOT ONLY YOUR DAUGHTER BUT YOU TOO, WHO ALSO AS YOU STATED GROWN UP WITH EACH OTHER OR A BOY WHO YOU KNOW NOTHING ABOUT WHO IS LOOKING FOR ONE THING

And just for clarity we are not sexually active for all of you people that have a negative mind set from my previous comment that i have made

Hmmmm... I have a 21 yr old daughter and there is NO WAY I would let her date ANY boy at the age of 13. I'm sure you're a nice guy, but as a mother... there is no chance in He** I would allow my daughter to be dating at the age of 13! NO WAY! Just giving you my opinion.

No I would not let my 13-year-old daughter date one on one, let alone someone who is 16. First loves rarely last, and those that do often give rise to what-if regrets. She, especially, is too young to really understand love.

Having said that, if her parents are aware of the relationship and approve, then they know you and their daughter better than we do.

As for the sex issue. It is not a negative mindset. It is a fact of life. It is something that has to be dealt with in any relationship. And it is very important in your case, since ANY sexual activity could land you in jail.

We've all been where you are today, sly. That is, we've all been 16 and have 'fallen in love'. The problem here is that a lot of growth happens between 13 and 16. Granted, boys mature slower than girls, but, as others have pointed out, the difference between 18 and 21 is a little different than 13 and 16.

To answer your question directly, "is there anything wrong with dating someone who is 3 years younger than you", not normally. But, between 13 and 16? Maybe. If you really care about her like you say you do, why don't you stay "best friends" until she grows up a little more.

Having said all that, if you are respectful, as you say, and her parents are aware and approve, then what you have to worry about isn't what we think, it's whether what you are doing is good for the girl you say you like so much. That is what you should be thinking about, in my opinion.