In high school I moved my senior year to a new school and met this guy. He's was the most caring and understanding person in the world, literally. I fell in love with him the first day we hung out together, he never had a girlfriend I never really had a boyfriend so it was sort of new to us. I was in love with him and he was in love with me but I was always scared to be with him because I was afraid he'd hurt me. I guess I was just scared of getting attached.. Anyway I moved again around three months later, it was hard for me to do but I had to. We stayed really good friends for years and now just recently he ask me to be with him, and of course I said yes. But now I had just figured out from one of his friends that he was with a girl for 4 years back in high school before I met him, though he told me he never had a girl friend... Now my question, should I bring it up to him and ask him why he lied or should I just forget about it since it happened so long ago.

First things first. You're not really in a relationship with him yet. Taking what you've said literally, you've only been with him for a brief period. Were I in your shoes, I'd let it go for the time being, but don't forget it. If he begins to commit to this relationship, he'd come clean about what he said. I know I've fibbed to girls before, and after dating I always feek guilty enough to come clean. If he doesn't come clean about it, you've got a good indicator where he's at in terms of emotional maturity and in the relationship.

I wouldn't let it get to you, lies before you're dating aren't as important as lies while you're dating. Let it go for the time being and see what happens.

You could ask him about it for the sake of just knowing... But I certainly wouldn't hold it against the guy... That would be silly...
Kae

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Originally Posted by madeformusic

In highschool I moved my senior year to a new school and met this guy. He's was the most careing and understanding person in the world, literally. I fell in love with him the first day we hung out together, he never had a girlfriend I never really had a boyfriend so it was sort of new to us. I was in love with him and he was in love with me but I was always scared to be with him because I was afraid he'd hurt me. I guess I was just scared of getting attached.. Anyway I moved again around three months later, it was hard for me to do but I had to. We stayed really good friends for years and now just recently he ask me to be with him, and of course I said yes. But now I had just figured out from one of his friends that he was with a girl for 4 years back in highschool before I met him, though he told me he never had a girl friend...Now my question, should I bring it up to him and ask him why he lied or should I just forget about it since it happened so long ago.

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you should casually bring it up. Don't ask randomly, just bring up rletionships and then mention it. Its only right that he be honest with you, but maybe she hurt him really bad and he wants to forget about it. Also, the person that told you about his ex-gf, get more background info on this guy, it could be shady.