Hair dressers, etc. I also drove her caregiver to and from my house while my mom was living with me. Is there tax credit or a deduction that I can take?

No if she does not qualify to be your dependent.

Talk to your tax professional. There is a way of claiming her on your taxes but I don't remember what I found it under. You could look it up on the IRS website www.irs.gov this would be easier or calling them up and talking to them on the phone.