Should I be up set that my husband looks at other woman that are not dress more then he looks at me and he as a email that he thinks I don't know about:confused: is it wrong for me to get mad or is are marrieds really gone and there know coming back because that's how I feel any more

No its not fair. You have all the right to be mad

These things you mention are really best solved by the two of you talking it out. If talking it out is not possible, then I would be inclined to either seek outside help or view the relationship as too far gone. Honest communication and mutual respect are essential to relationships for me. I know other people settle for far less but they get what they get doing that (which is why I don't do that LOL).

You have a right to be mad, but that does not mean the marriage is over. Lack of communication in a marriage is the biggest problem in marriages that have these and other problems in. So best advice is to start communicating to your husband. If nothing changes then seek out marriage counseling which will help you with different approaches and also that if you both go together is a bonus. If one partner refuses then the other partner goes on there own.

Best wishes for you and your marriage.

Joe

Hi band-aid

I believe you have the right to feel mad... but...
More importantly does he know how you feel about these issues you have?

I know it sounds silly but everyone has different tolerance and exceptance levels..
For example:
I don't have a problem with my man looking at other women, naked or dressed, It often reminds him how grateful he is to have me by his side..
But interacting with another female with intent to pursue is whole different barrel of fish, it crosses my line...
Though for some one else, they may be OK with it..

But still, in the end, it all ends up in the same box... As Above..

Communication!

It's not that scarey either, it can be quite fun getting to know your friend all over again..

Good Luck with your pursuit for happiness..
And No... good solid relationships/marriages/friendships are still cranking around the globe... it's just sometimes it's a little hard to see the good with all the bad being thrown at us..

It really doesn't matter how anyone else thinks you should feel... the bottom line is YOU DO FEEL upset about it.

The best thing to do is talk to him about it... he is no mind reader. Tell him how it makes you feel when he looks at other women, and how you feel about the private email address. There needs to be no secrets between you two. There should be no reason that you can't check this email and if there is then there is something not right. (Unless he just got it temporarily to order something special for you and he didn't want you to know about... unfortunately the latter is very rarely the reason.)

Good luck and open up... this is your HUSBAND we're talking about!

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Originally Posted by band-aid

should i be up set that my husband looks at other woman that are not dress more then he looks at me and he as a email that he thinks i dont know about:confused: is it wrong for me to get mad or is are marrieds realy gone and there know coming back because thats how i feel any more

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Umm if your husband is looking at other naked women... something is wrong... because like I say to my husband I don't mind if you watch dirty movies or look at other girls while I'm with you but if you have to look at them behind my back your not happy with what you have.and if you want to see a naked girl well damn you have a wife I will get naked all you want.lol but yea hun you need to figure out why he is acting like this is he still atracted to u? And tell him how it hurts seeing girls like that on a email hun you gota tell him you seen it so he knows..

a simple solution band-aid:


Love yourself and know your worth, not to be a narcissist nor proud, but to understand that you are more than the sum of what your husband may or may not see with other girls... when you succeed on this, you won't be troubled by these events, besides, it will be his loss ;)


Barrabas