My fiancé of 10 years isn't happy with anything. What to do?
Hello,
My fiancé and I have been together for nearly 10 years. We met in college as sophomores and have a 6 year old son together. Our relationship has been great. We hit a rough patch around 4 years ago when she needed a "break" and I went NC and we ended up working things out after about 4 weeks. Things have been great for the majority of our relationship.
However, the past couple of months she has been really depressed. She has mentioned several times in the past few months that she needs anti depressants. She sleeps all day sometimes and doesn't want to be bothered or show interest in anything. She will cry out of nowhere for no reason in particular and tell me she's just upset. Lately she's stated over and over again that she hates her job and hates how she looks. No matter how much I tell her how good she looks or how beautiful she is it doesn't matter.
Everything came to a head last Sunday. She went to her mothers house for the day with our son, and I stayed behind. We texted all day nothing out of the ordinary. She arrived home and was telling me everything that they did at her mom's and within 5 minutes she started crying and stormed out of the house. I called her to see what was going on and she said she's unhappy with her job, unhappy with herself, and unhappy with our relationship.
This totally threw me for a loop because she had just left me a handwritten letter a 3 days before about how she can't live without me and I'm her everything! I'm totally devastated and do not know what to do. She said she needs space. Everything is further complicated by the fact that we live together in a home we purchased just 3 years ago. We also bought a new car about 5 months ago that is in both of our names. We still stay in the same house and she texts me from work every night. Even telling me she loves me. I don't know what to do! This week has been hell and its not getting any better. What should I do? I have suggested going to talk to someone together whether it be a pastor or therapist and she refuses!
Sorry for the length!