Me and my girlfriend have been dating for two months and we completely head-over-heels for each other. There is never a point in which ether of us could be with the other and isn't. We can't stop hugging and kissing and everybody knows it and says we are perfect for each other. I would do anythihng, sersiously anything, for her as long as it is what she wanted. I gave her the best Valentines Day present every. A hand written poem and a crystal/glass rose. She asked me when we could have sex. We had done other things but not sex. So I was just wondering, even if you are crazy in love, if there is a point in which it is to early for sex? And if this seems to early will I seem like non=manly for asking for time?

Take precautions you don't need and little screaming surprises in 9 months, there's no right or wrong time to have intercourse but it has to be with two concenting ADULTS.

I disagree with CBW slightly... there's no right time, but there are definitely wrong times :)

How old are you? The first part of your post sounds more like infatuation than love to me. But hey, I'm only a little short of being a bitter old man.

Simply be sure that you're ready... being hesitant is OK, it doesn't make you less than a man. If this is the first time for either of you, you need to be extra careful on an emotional level... the last thing you want is for either of you to be carrying that particular burden. If you both know that you're ready, then there's nothing really to wait for... just know that you've added another level of responsibility to the relationship.

To answer your other question... it doesn't make you less manly to be concerned, or to want to wait. If it doesn't seem right to you, feel free to let your partner know... if she's worth the tmie, she'll respect you more for your concern, and when it is time, then you'll both be even more satisfied.

I am 16 and my girlfriend is 15 and are both virgins. I know what your going to say about being young and the responsibility and I understand that. I really do and I have been taking precations in case we do. I just want to know if, since this is what shhe wants, if she might not be thinking and this is to early I could wait until the end of time before having sex with her honestly. There is like a stat that says 98% of teens who have sex for the first time regret it. And I think sex is very overrated. I don't want to make this something see will look back on and say she shouldn't have done that. I am more conerned for her well being rather then in the my own.

Very thoughtful of you. 2 months is not a lot of time to know someone in my opinion, and I think you both should at least get to know one another at another level besides just the physical. Nothing wrong in waiting and a very good thing to talk honestly and often on the way you both feel. I hope you both have fun as you find out about each other, and applaud your maturity. Be patient.

Powerx7 your response is extreamly refreshing to read if only more would take your point of view towards sex.
There is no doubt in my mind my first time was awfull and it was extreamly thoughtless on both sides but I certainly learnt from it.
I wish you luck keep that responsible head on and go with your feelings and enjoy each other in every way you can.

Most young men your age wouldn't be as thoughtful as you are being and would jump at the chance to have sex. I congratulate you on your maturity. First, you have been together only a short time. Infatuation comes to mind rather than love - give your relationship time to develop. Second, there are a variety of pleasing sexual experiences besides intercourse. Using your hands to stimulate and pleasure each other, or giving and receiving oral sex are good alternatives to intercourse. Sexual intercourse is a big step both physically and emotionally. Once you lose your virginity you can never get it back. Third, and most important, when you both decide that you are ready for intercourse, use protection - a condom is good but other forms of birth control are more reliable. An unwanted pregnancy, especially at your age would spoil three lives. Take care and enjoy being in love.

Powerx7,
I would suggest that you wait and it will not make you less of a man.My reason being that you sound like you care a lot about her and yourself and you know that it would be best if you waited. You also need to speak with her and tell her about your desire and reasons for wanting to wait because chances are she may not be ready herself but is pushing for sex because she does not want to loose you. Like the others have said you need to enjoy other aspects of your relationship as much as you can an also enjoy being young don't take on the responsibilities of sex before you have to.
Good luck.

I do tend to get that I am mature quit a lot. Often people tell I sound as though I am 3 or 4 years older. I do talk to her a lot and we both know more about each other then even our best friends, because there have been things I have done and that she has done that we both regret. I don't know if you'll understand this but even though it has only been two months. WE both feel like we have know each other and dating for much longer. There is not a time when one of us has problem that the other can't help and we tell each other everything. We have done other sexual activities as well please don't think that we are jumping the gunfor sex. I also have personal battle between what I want and what I need. I would love to have sex for a couple reasons. Obviously I am a man so there is that reason. I also want to be come even closer to her. I know that sex brings people together closer then before emotionally. But sex is not something I need and is battling mentally for proity in life. It's just hard to keep the separation between needs and wants.

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Originally Posted by powerx7

So I was just wondering, if there is a point in which it is to early for sex?

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I think anytime after midnight but before dawn is too early. :D

It would be helpful if you all who read this give your opinoins because this is really important

You can only have sex for the first time once, and it is sure nice if it happens with someone that you truly love. It is even nicer with it is with someone that you are going to spend the rest of your life with.

Just do what you think is right