I have been with my boyfriend for over 3 years now the first year we were together he was the perfect guy, then we were surprised with me being pregnant, had trouble dealing with it at first then everything was back to being normal, or so I thought. He changed without warning seemed to become lazy, unmotivated to even find a job. Recently it has gotten even worse when we had to move cause we couldn't afford to live where we were, we both had to leave our jobs and move to a smaller town. I have to push him to do everything, and I mean everything, to do his school work, to look for a job, to help look after our daughter, to pick up after himself, it feels like I am a mother of two. He uses everything as an excuse to not do something, I tell him how I feel, I discuss it with him and he gets so angry and starts telling me he is not going to do his school work, and just not complete school at all. I have talked to him about all the stress he puts on me and how he makes me feel, he changes for a couple days then goes back to how it was before talking to him. I am to the point I am so stressed I don't know what to do even if it sounds like the answer should be clear to me. The biggest problem I have is I am way to nice and caring and would feel bad for kicking him out, as he has no place to go.

I should also mention that I have given up so much for him, to help him out, make sure he feels special on his birthday, at Christmas, even at just random times during the year. When it comes to doing anything special for me I have gotten two Christmas presents out of the four Christmas's we have been together ( not a big deal to me at all) the thing that gets me is he makes no effort for my birthday, I don't even see a card, which would at least show he cares, he did try to take me out for dinner for my birthday, but when we got the bill I found out I was paying, so I pretty much ended up taking myself out for birthday dinner.

Anyway my questions are basically can anyone give me advice? Anyone going through the same situation? Should I dump him? Pretty much what should I do?

Thanks for reading and helping me out

How old are you two? How old is your daughter? How sound are you financially?

I am a mother too and I have a lazy husband. I too feel m a mother of 2 kids, but its not the same. In my case, though I need to push him a lot, when it comes to taking responsibilities, he does take life seriously.
If your partner needs a lot of push, I feel you better think twice. You shouldn't feel burdened. You need to think of your daughter first. If you are financially sound, if you can take care of your daughter alone, or if you have help from your family, then get out of it. Talk to him before you take any decision.

I am 22 he is 27, I am financially stable and have family very close by to help me, and my daughter is coming up on her 2nd birthday, as for my boyfriend not financially stable at all, I just recently found out he is in major debt

U have the answer right in front of you,, he is in debt,, get out now before he drowns you in debt,, there are a few men who NEVER take responsibility if therez an easy way out. I guess he saw your financial status as a solution to his debts.
Being a single mother can be hard, but not impossible. And it's just for a while. Once you fall in love with the right person, nothing can ruin your life.
M giving you a suggestion. Talk to your family before you take any decision.

I think first you back up, and stop pushing and make your own plan for success without him. He can pay child support, and you can be happy with a happy healthy life you build.

Maybe this will wake him up, maybe it won't, because I don't think he is really ready for the responsibilities of man hood and family that was trust upon him so fast.

Whatever his thinking and attitude, let him get his head together without you! So get yours together without him. He has changed because you have changed as do most of us when we have responsibility. He needs to decide things for himself, without your pushing him. That's why he pushes back.