My mom hates me and told me so when I was young. We are now both Christians, and we are closer than ever before, but she constantly does things to hurt me. Like at Christmas I got a card, but my brother got a gift card and so did his wife, her daughter in law, I got an apology that she couldn't give me anything. It wasn't the gift card, just the idea of her caring more for her daughter in law than her own flesh and blood.

I don't know what to do, I am a Christian, and want to to what's right, but I am afraid of getting hurt again.

How old are you? Consider that her gifts to your brother and daughter were because of need? Maybe forgive, and understand.

Do you live with her, do they?

Have you ever discussed with your mother how you feel? Why you feel unloved? I would focus on your new found faith for direction. Talk to God. God also understands. I read a card that a friend gave me once called "Let go and let God". It doesn't take away the pain that your brother and his wife got a gift card and you got a card from her... but it can help you deal with it.

Sometimes, we feel hurt by the actions of our loved ones. It can be unintentional.

I have felt a hundred times in my life that my mom hates me and loves my siblings more, in fact I've filled journals after journals during my teenage about how unloved I am.

Your mom, may have given you just a card unintentionally, or maybe she wanted to show more love to her daughter in law as she must have felt her need to be higher.

Imagine you are married to a man, and his mother gives better gifts to her daughter and something really lame to you... How would you feel then?

Yes, you are right that you feel bad when you being her own flesh and blood are treated differently from her daughter in law. But it could also be that your mom considering you her own thought you would understand more about not getting a better gift then her daughter in law.

I am not defending you mother her, I am just giving possible reasons of her action.

Whenever you feel unloved, just go and tell your mom that you don't feel loved. Have a chat with her over coffee, pour out your heart. It will surely remove the burden, and let her know too how you feel.

All the best!