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Best friend

My best friend has a boyfriend right noe and he doesn't treat her like she should be treated. I try to tell her she needs to talk to him and tell him she doesn't like the way he treats her but doesn't listen. She afraid that he might break up with her or something.
And she doesn't want to get hurt any more then she already has.:confused:

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Originally Posted by Cherries

my best friend has a boyfriend right noe and he doesnt treat her like she should be treated. i try to tell her she needs to talk to him and tell him she doesnt like the way he treats her but doesnt listen. she afraid that he might break up with her or something.
and she doesnt want to get hurt any more then she already has.:confused:

Mayb you should tell her that she should get rid of him because no girl should tke from guys trust me bin there dne that lol
Love you xxxxxx

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Originally Posted by bbygirl

mayb u should tell her that she should get rid of him coz no girl should tke from guys trust me bin there dne that lol
luv ya xxxxxx

I've tried to tell her but she just doesn't get it, and I told her sht doesn't need to be treated like. Not from anyone.

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Originally Posted by Cherries

my best friend has a boyfriend right noe and he doesnt treat her like she should be treated. i try to tell her she needs to talk to him and tell him she doesnt like the way he treats her but doesnt listen. she afraid that he might break up with her or something.
and she doesnt want to get hurt any more then she already has.:confused:

If she is getting treated like crap then breaking up would be the best thing
Don't stay with someone and be miserable

I rather be alone then be unhappy

You may have to tell her what others think of her for putting up with him, or the way you feel about her putting up with him in your own words, and do you think it would make a difference to know as long as she is with him it could cost a friendship. Have you told the b/f how you feel and told him to back off, or enlisted the help of an older male friend to intervene on her behalf?

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Originally Posted by Cherries

my best friend has a boyfriend right noe and he doesnt treat her like she should be treated. i try to tell her she needs to talk to him and tell him she doesnt like the way he treats her but doesnt listen. she afraid that he might break up with her or something.
and she doesnt want to get hurt any more then she already has.:confused:

You have a duty as a friend to look after mates. And if this is the case then you must do everything that you can to make your friend see that this lad is not the one for her. Xxxx

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Originally Posted by laura0909009

if she is getting treated like crap then breaking up would be the best thing
dont stay with someone and be miserable

i rather be alone then be unhappy

The thing is that I've tried to talk to her but she doesn't listen.she really likes him but, she doesn't want him or herself to get hurt. I don't like wotching her get hurt and I told her to break up with him but no she won't.:confused:

Sometimes we cannot help our friends and that hurts but it's the truth and we must decide between watching them do things that's not good and cutting them loose. Not what you want to hear but, you can't make them do what they don't want to. She may have to learn in her own way. Sorry!

What does it mean when some one calls you mam

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Originally Posted by laura0909009

if she is getting treated like crap then breaking up would be the best thing
dont stay with someone and be miserable

i rather be alone then be unhappy

But the thing is she doesn't like to be alone.

OK did anyone else catch that?? Sheisgoing what are you talking about?

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Originally Posted by shy_gal

You have a duty as a friend to look after mates. And if this is the case then you must do everthing that you can to make your friend see that this lad is not the one for her. xxxx

When I talk to her I try to tell her but she just doesn't get it she doesn't need to be treated like that.

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Originally Posted by bbygirl

mayb u should tell her that she should get rid of him coz no girl should tke from guys trust me bin there dne that lol
luv ya xxxxxx

I have tried to tell her that but it doesn't go through her head.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Sometimes we cannot help our friends and that hurts but its the truth and we must decide between watching them do things thats not good and cutting them loose. Not what you want to hear but, you can't make them do what they don't want to. She may have to learn in her own way. Sorry!!

I no but you no what she comes to me for help, and I'm not going to "LET HER LOOSE" duh.

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Originally Posted by kanicky73

ok did anyone else catch that??? Sheisgoing what are you talking about?

What are you tlking about Sheisgoing??

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Originally Posted by sheisgoing

what does it mean when some one calls you mam

When people say mam to you its some times to be polite. But sometimes they also say it because of age.

I get that, I am wanting to know where the heck that had anything to do with what we were talking about. I went back and read through the whole thread and no one said anything about anyone calling them ma'am. I was just confused is all.

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Originally Posted by kanicky73

I get that, I am wanting to know where the heck that had anything to do with what we were talking about. I went back and read thru the whole thread and no one said anything about anyone calling them ma'am. I was just confused is all.

But if u were so confused than y did you write it on my thing of ask question.:confused:

Cherries this is what I am trying to say. I was trying to read everyone's responses and try to help you and then I come across that response and was totally confused as to what it had to do with this problem? Do you understand now?

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Originally Posted by kanicky73

Cherries this is what I am trying to say. I was trying to read everyones responses and try to help you and then I come across that response and was totally confused as to what it had to do with this problem? Do you understand now?

Sure I guess so, but anyway okay.:eek: