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  • Jan 19, 2012, 10:22 PM
    jdav32
    What would you do if you were in my shoes?
    Hi there,

    I've got unsolved damn problems and I don't know what to do. Me and my girl friend been together almost a year now. She's been divorced and has a kid, and almost a year ago she start flirting me and asking me to out and we did, we start going out having a wonderful time. She liked me and I liked her.

    But one day I found that she has another man who thinks himself her future husband. And I asked her what hell is the that? What's going on? She goes well this guy is just a guy, don't thinking about him. I've told him not to but he still texting me. I love you and all that. I trusted her very much. One day I discovered that guy is her boss. Her ex husband's best mate.

    As soon as she get split from her husband, the guy tried to get her, and got it. They work together sometimes stay together. So I found everything. She still keep telling me, she loves me, and she will get off from him. But that things are still going on. She cheated me and him, and stays both side right now.

    This is so stupid and f*****ed up, but I do love her, but it's not right. What the hell should I do about it. I feel like I've been played, my mind, and heart, I'm hurt, very hurt... any advise will help. Thanks.
  • Jan 20, 2012, 01:48 PM
    talaniman
    I feel for you guy, and its not unusual that when you give ALL your heart to a stranger, very quickly, you find out more about them that disturbs you.

    What made you think that she was EXCLUSIVELY your girl friend? Sweet words, or a mutual agreement? Obviously I think you just assumed that's what was going on. So of course its was shocking and hurtful she was not being completely honest, nor is completely reassuring now. Get away from this game, and don't look back because now you know you are being played so get the hell out, and lick your wounds, and heal.

    That's what I would do, move on and learn my lesson, and ask better questions as you get to know someone during the dating phase

    Honestly though, be responsible for your decision to give your trust, and heart to someone that didn't deserve it, or know what to do with it. Of course she was happy doing her thing, that's not her fault, but she was not as honest, and straight forward as she could be. Now you have facts, that should over rule all those love feelings so you can LET THEM GO!!

    Really simple guy, you dump her, and get her out of your life, because things were not what she presented them to be. You were deceived.
  • Feb 3, 2012, 12:38 AM
    politicalincrct
    RUN!! Gold digger alert!! She is playing you and him!! Get the hell out!! Get checked for diseases too!!
  • Feb 13, 2012, 09:42 PM
    amandapanda79
    If she is not willing to give up the other guy then you should get out now. It doesn't really matter at that point how much you love her! She is cheating on you and if you stay she will keep doing it and lying to you about it. If she does stop seeing the other guy then there is no guarantee that she won't cheat on you again with some other guy that comes along! GET OUT!

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