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  • Jan 16, 2012, 05:40 PM
    Mase20
    Should I break up with my girlfriend?
    My girlfriend and I have been going through problems for awhile. She has decided not to have sex with me anymore because of her religious beliefs, so it makes it real hard for me in the relationship. Last time we argued she said she feels like I don't give her affection like I once did before she stopped having sex with me. She has repeatedly brought up the same issue for a long time. Me and her are seniors in high school, but I feel like we probably won't last after we graduate. We have been together since our sophomore year. I have not spoke to her in a week. What hurt me most, was after my basketball game, she didn't stay afterwards to meet me when I left the locker room. Then my best friend told me today that he seen her with another dude, but nothing was happening. Its just the point that she was another guy, and I have not spoke with her since last week. I don't know what to do. I don't want to assume that she is cheating. Even though I love her a lot, I don't think I'm in love with her anymore.
  • Jan 16, 2012, 06:01 PM
    talaniman
    Then have the guts to be honest and end this farce.
  • Jan 16, 2012, 06:10 PM
    Mase20
    I should leave her? Or try to work it out?
  • Jan 16, 2012, 06:19 PM
    DoulaLC
    Part of dating is getting to know different people and finding out what you like and don't like, what fits your personality and beliefs and what doesn't.

    It sounds as though both of you have had little dating experience with anyone else. This works out well for some couples, and they go on to stay together, but for many others the high school years are part of that learning stage. Many date a few different people along the way.

    It may be that this relationship has just about run its course. It has served a purpose in letting you both get to experience a deep sense of caring and love for someone. You have also experienced how people can simply grow apart and find different paths to take.

    If you don't see this as lasting, or the sort of relationship you want to continue in, then, as talaniman said, be honest with her about it. She may be a wonderful person, and has been a great girlfriend, but things have changed for you both.

    It sounds like a great first love... something you will always remember. It could be the relationship is just going through some growing pains... time will tell. Communication is key.
  • Jan 16, 2012, 06:30 PM
    talaniman
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Mase20 View Post
    i should leave her? or try to work it out?

    LEAVE, that's what you wrote. That's what your feelings say, and you have no facts, nor honest communications. That's why you leave. You are just two people holding on to a title.
  • Jan 16, 2012, 07:04 PM
    Homegirl 50
    You said you don't think you're in love with her anymore, it is hard for you now because she no longer wants to have sex.
    Tell her you want out, leave. Looks like she is out anyway
  • Jan 16, 2012, 10:35 PM
    batgurl066
    No... You don't love her then js... A relationship dose not need sex . This is affecting her too I promise

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