Recently I had sex with my friends boyfriend... We were both very drunk and couldn't control ourselves. She isn't a very close friend but we are getting along really well. I am absolutely devastated. Such thing has never ever happened to me. I have had sex only once before this case. I don't know what to do, I am very sorry now. Please give me a piece of advice.

Stop getting drunk with the guys, or its likely to happen again.

The first thing you have to do is realize you CAN control yourself. If every drunk woman 'couldn't control herself' and had sex against her will, there would be a lot more babies being born, and the excuse of not being able to control oneself, would have the paternity judge asking- do you come from the jungle? Is this mating season? Perhaps there would be more legal actions against stores selling liquor? Would it be their fault? It was the alcohol that made you do it right... THEY sold it to me, now I'm pregnant, it's all their fault.

You screwed up, because you made the decision to screw up. That's the first thing you have to accept. That you are remorseful, and I do believe you feel badly about what you have done, there is not any excuse that would work to explain your behaviour, other than, the choices you made.

That you remember what you did- you weren't unconscious were you- and have some vague recollection of removing your clothing, and you are certain it was your friends boyfriend (you are sure, right?) that you did the dirty with, you have to take responsibility.

And so does he. Keeping this a dirty little secret between the two of you, is a terrible betrayal in the worst possible degree, to your friend.

You got drunk, you had (probably) unprotected sex, you regret every decision you made along the way, during the evening, when the drinking became the mind numbing substance, and excuse, to expedite your chosen particiation with a willing, equally horny, male. You are kidding yourself, and not fooling me, by saying you didn't know exactly what you were doing.

What I would do, if I allowed this to happen to me, and I wanted to stop covering up what I did, would be to sit my friend down, and tell her simply, that "I slept with your boyfriend". That's all the truth she needs to know about you- as a friend, and him- as a boyfriend.

Mine is first hope you don't get pregnant from this, then it will reallly make it confusing.

And yes, most likely things will get out about it, guys talk to other guys at some point, so I would just tell my friend and let things happen a they will