I have been with my boyfriend for 3yrs and for the first year at least he couldn't get enough of me. It has now dwindled to once a month. He is still very loving and tactile, he constantly kisses me and cuddle me. I have mentioned it on a few occasions as it makes me feel I'm unattractive but that caused tendion, so now I've backed right off to see what happens. I am still responsive to him but it has become so infrequent I can't be bothered myself any more. We are working towards living together but although our relationship is a really good one and I love him very much I really don't want to live the rest of my days sex free.

And yet you continue? People don't change... this is who he is...

The first year is LUST, not love... HUGE difference... you need to learn how to tell one from the other.

After the first year the novelty wore off. And its clear this is his normal...

I'd say the same thing if the roles were reversed (as they often are)... if you aren't happy with someone the way they are... then its time to move on. Because people don't change... and you can't make them. Its clear he cares about you, but you have to face the face he's not a natural horndog.

Cheers smoothy

I have the same problem I don't really know what to suggest because all men are different in the way they work. You have said you have mentioned it so I don't know why for sake and your feelings why he hasn't tried maybe you could suggest spicing things up or doing something completely random that you would never usually do or have done like when he comes home from work be naked in the kitchen... that was an example. But still even when you have talked or done things to try then its really not good for your head... but good luck and hope he finally wakes "it" up.

frank x