Hi guys, the title for this question isn't exactly fitting, but whatever. I am a male and am 18 in a couple of weeks and am still a virgin. A fair amount of my friends have had sex and currently have girlfriends. I am studying at college and work a part time job. I am quite good with people in general, and am reasonably intelligent. Despite being described by a few mates as having a good personality, I have never had a girlfriend as the girls I have liked haven't been into me at all. I am just generally feeling quite alone. I was wondering if there is something I am missing: why are girls not into me? I make sure I don't try too hard and am nice to everyone I meet, is it perhaps that I am too nice? I have no idea what to do :(

Talaniman secret,

When one says NO, or isn't interested, ask another one. Ask 10 girls for a date, at LEAST one will want to go. Just make sure they don't know each other.

But most guys take rejection (NO), so personally, that they stop after the first one. The trick is to not be a dog player, but be a fun loving guy like you are. Forget looking for sex, or a girl friend, make friends and have fun, as you never know who a female knows and they love setting up good guy friends with good girl friends.

I find that activities, that make you happy is the best place to shine, but where ever you are is an opportunity to meet someone.

Cashiers, and college campuses, were my personal favorites. And be a good guy, not a nice one. See the difference? I have never been lonely, and being alone ain't a bad thing at all, as a guy has to rest sometime.

Talaniman Rule - When you stop looking for love, and build a life that makes you happy, then you will attract others that want to share that happiness with you.

So get busy building.

Just be yourself! Don't go out of your way to be extra friendly. Being yourself will allow you to talk more freely with girls. Add a little sense of humor in the mix of your conversation. Smile at times when your talking to her. Don't act nervous even if you feel that way.

Don't worry about the fact that you are still a virgin. I think it's very admirable. Guys may think that you are lacking "machismo". Don't pay attention. Guys that sleep with everybody and everybody a scummy and cheap. The right girl will come along whom you will truly enjoy the experience with and it will mean something.

Good Luck!