I'm 65 y/o woman who's never been in a relationship with a man or a woman. Have had strong feelings for several women friends since 14 y/o. Now I'm in love with my woman best friend. Her last 2 lifetime partners died. She's been single now for about 4 years and has not sought a new relationship that I know of. We've known each other about 5 years but have only been close friends for the past 2 years. She is a very caring person but finds it hard to let others get close. She will ofter do special unexpected things for me that I would never have asked a friend to do for me, but when I tell her how special that act was to me she gets embarrassed and blushes. We see each other almost every day even if it's just to walk my dog. I have a strong physical attraction to her but don't know how to show it as I've been pretty closed in since I was molested during puberty. I've never even made out with another person and don't know how to ask for intimacy. Any suggestions how to handle this situation?

I strongly urge you to stay within the boundaries of good behavior until you know a lot more of your friends actions.

Maybe she is just lonely for a friend, but I think as you keep talking you both will find out more of each other through sharing your life stories together.

My point is tread slowly and carefully until you know more. Never assume, or presume when you can find out the facts through honest communications, which is the key to any interactions between you.

Have you ever gotten guidance for your long ago trauma?

Yes I sought counseling and worked through a lot, including family seriously disfunctional

Where her other partners male or female?

My friend is a lesbian and her partners were,too.

At somepoint something may be mentioned. If you have feelings you may lose a friend if you are wrong, but may miss a life partner if you don't.

In the end it is only your choice.

How I see it is that you only get one life, and if you really have feelings for this person then you should speak to her about it. She sounds like a true friend, and even if she doesn't reciprocate those feelings then I don't think it would ruin your friendship. Also to me it sounds as though she does feel the same way you do.

You have little to lose and everything to gain, this could be a wonderful relationship for you and you really could find a life partner here. Good luck with everything xxx