Hi guys just a quickie. There is this chick who I met through a friend a few months ago. We had a nice time and were just very friendly with each other. Anyway, recently we have been chatting a lot on fb and are getting to know each other on a deeper level. She´s starting to open up to me talking about her past and that she broke up with this guy last week and is now so lonely etc. She keeps inviting me to do things with her which I haven't been able to make yet but then last night during a talk she said she would like me to come over and watch a movie with her but also stressed as friends, don't get me wrong I'm fine with just being her friend but must add that she's very attractive and I could see her as more down the line if we got that close.

Is she checking me out or is that line she drew permanent or is she just saying - I like you, lets hang out and find out etc.. She explained that the last guy she was really serious with turned out to be a psycho so now she is really picky about who she lets in.. thanks in advance for your thoughts and advice on this little matter.

Only she knows what "lines" she is drawing, but I will say, once a move is made to be more than friends, seldom can it go back. Also she may just need a friend, and hanging out and doing things together is also what friends do.

If you want to know what she wants or thinks, you will have to ask her.

Thanks for the input and yeah, I understand that and am happy to be her friend and hang out. I will take her up on her offers and be a friend to her and try to forget the whole notion of anything more. I'm not an ******* and I'll treat her with a lot of respect. I'm tired of having pseudo gfs anyway as of late so am not that interested in a **** buddy.

I won't ask her about what she wants as I don't know either and its way too soon to know anything.

I just want to make her feel comfortable and not come across as a sleaze bag. Guess that's why she fired a warning shot at the start to say "I'm gonna let you in a bit so don't abuse it".

She's nice, we'll see. If there are no signs eventually then at least I may have found another good friend.

As long as I have been around these forums, yours is one of the best attitudes I have seen. At least you recognize she is lonely, AND healing from a break up, yet are willing to make friends with no false hopes, or unrealistic expectations. You are cool, calm, and collected and under control, and I hope you both enjoy getting to know each other, and being friends.

That's keeping it real. KUDOS, and hats off.

Thanks talaniman, I really appreciate your post. It´s taken a lot of experiences and situations over the years with friends and lovers to get to where I am today. There is still so much more to discover but feel for the first time that I have enough understanding of myself and the world around me to carve out a fuller and happier life. Learning to love without fear or controlling a desire fueled ego takes strength but then becoming who you are gets easier. Ha, I think I know what I mean:)

Happy new year! 2011 rip