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  • Jan 1, 2012, 06:42 PM
    Oldwomencase11
    Is my boyfriend normal?
    Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year And he has never once said I was right About Anything. And I was on varsity soccer and I'm only a freshmen and he claims to be better then me at soccer just because he's faster... He won't even pretend to be bad at something just to make me feel good . It Annoys me so much ! Help ?
  • Jan 2, 2012, 04:15 AM
    Ddrodjr
    Lol yes he normal just a teenager. I didn't learn till I was 20 till I let my girl bet me at golf.
  • Jan 2, 2012, 11:23 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Oldwomencase11 View Post
    Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year And he has never once said I was right About Anything. And I was on varsity soccer and I'm only a freshmen and he claims to be better then me at soccer just because he's faster... He won't even pretend to be bad at something just to make me feel good . It Annoys me so much ! Help ?


    Why would you want him to pretend to be something he is not just to make you "feel good?"

    You sound very young.
  • Jan 2, 2012, 09:00 PM
    Oldwomencase11
    How to spice up my relationship!
    Me and my boyfriend are very in love. And I want to be spontaneous and do cute things for him... But what should I do ? I obviously can't get him flowers... And I've written him about a billion love notes. Suggestions?
  • Jan 3, 2012, 11:44 AM
    talaniman
    Why not just be yourself and enjoy the time you spend together. Maybe there is nothing to spice up, just have fun.
  • Jan 3, 2012, 11:56 AM
    JudyKayTee
    BEFORE anyone gives advice about how to spice up this person's love life... she's 14 years old! https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...ml#post2989987 "I'm 14 year old girl."
  • Jan 3, 2012, 12:05 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    This is the way life is, no one should lose to you on purpose, what is the point in that.

    But now that I see you are 14, that does explain a lot.
  • Jan 3, 2012, 03:13 PM
    Oldwomencase11
    15 in four days...
  • Jan 3, 2012, 03:53 PM
    JudyKayTee
    Oh, okay - let me correct what I posted: BEFORE anyone gives advice about how to spice up this person's love life... she's 14 years old BUT SHE'LL TURN 15 IN FOUR DAYS! https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...ml#post2989987 "I'm 14 year old girl."
  • Jan 3, 2012, 05:56 PM
    Oldwomencase11
    That's just rude.. I'm here for advice not judgement
  • Jan 3, 2012, 06:00 PM
    JudyKayTee
    The fact that this is on the teen board doesn't mean you are a teen. "Spice up" your relationship could very well lead to suggestions which are inappropriate for a 14 (several days from 15) year old. No one is judging you.

    I am advising the OTHER people who post to please check the age before answering.

    I believe that's an AMHD rule.
  • Jan 3, 2012, 06:19 PM
    ScottGem
    This is part of the reason young people shouldn't be entering into romantic relationships. Your boyfriends simply sounds like a typical immature teen who really isn't ready for a romantic relationship. You apparently started this when you were 13. Were your parents aware of it? Did they approve of you dating at that age?
  • Jan 5, 2012, 08:48 PM
    Oldwomencase11
    My parents obviously didn't think much of me "dating" at that age. They thought it was just a stupid middle school relationship like most parents would assume. But things worked out and we've been together sense then.
  • Jan 6, 2012, 04:07 AM
    ScottGem
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Oldwomencase11 View Post
    But things worked out

    Except things haven't worked out! Not by what you have posted here. From what you have posted, this is a "stupid middle school relationship" where both of you have no real idea what a real relationship is about.

    I suspect you are still together because you both are more interested in being in a relationship then not being in one. So its kept going by inertia. And the reason most parents would make the assumption is because they know by experience. Unlike you who are trying to play at being adult before you are ready.
  • Jan 6, 2012, 05:53 PM
    Oldwomencase11
    Not really we don't have relationship problems I just want to do nice things for him. And I never said it was a stupid middle school relationship I said that's what my parents thought that when we met. And I know for a fact that I love him. And I don't think my age matters And you really Have no right to judge my relationship, because you DON'T know anything, other then the fact that I'm young.
  • Jan 7, 2012, 07:38 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Oldwomencase11 View Post
    Not really we don't have relationship problems I just want to do nice things for him. And I never said it was a stupid middle school relationship i said that's what my parents thought that when we met. and I know for a fact that i love him. and I don't think my age matters And you really Have no right to judge my relationship, because you DON'T know anything, other then the fact that I'm young.


    No, we know what you've posted. That's the basis for the advice you were given.

    No one is shooting in the dark here.

    We didn't come on the board with a question - you did. If you want advice, post here. If you want people to agree with you, ask your friends.
  • Jan 7, 2012, 03:37 PM
    ScottGem
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Oldwomencase11 View Post
    I know for a fact that i love him.

    I am sure you are convinced that you love him. But I am convinced that you don't have the experience to know for a fact that you are. At least not the type of love that has people staying married for a lifetime.

    And, yes, we have every right to judge your relationship since YOU came here and asked about it.
  • Jan 7, 2012, 10:09 PM
    talaniman
    You may well be in love, but you don't know what to do about it, but in time, you will.

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