I have lost my virginity today and I am 28 year old woman, it was the most painful experience in my life and I don't think I am ready to do it again soon, there was quite a bit of bleeding can you tell me if it normal, and also the condom ripted which has me worried, when do you think it is the right time for an HIV and pregnancy test, as I have an inregular periods.

Yes for many women it can be very painful the first time, and be blood the first time, this is normal. It will be better the next time.

Yes if the condom broke, you do have to worry.

You will have to wait several weeks for a pregnancy test.

Thanks Fr_Chuck, your answer helped quite a bit and I will wait a few weeks then for the pregnancy test and I will try be more opened minde and try again

Not a women of course, and some have less pain, and how the partner works with you can make a difference also.

Just make sure to do be ready and relax.