I'm a 14 yr old girl and I accidentally saw my moms cell phone messages and they were a guy whom she was chatting with and complaining about my dad and also calling that other guy 'darling' and sweetu and asking him if he would Want to join her for a shower... Should I confront her or should I justt let it be... I'm really shocked because I thought my mom was the best... Help me:'( ?

Crazy123456,

Firstly, welcome to this great site!

Do not be so crazy, Crazy. It is her life. You do not know, what's going on between your parents, as many things are so so hidden, and moreover, if you try to poke your nose, you will at best spoil your relationship with your mom. Your mother is not committing some sin, by being romantic with him, as may be, your dad does not satisfy her sexual and emotional thirst. Do not try to control her. Neither can you do it, dear. Social mores sometimes prove to be fatal, as they end up becoming obstacles in the romance, or the love life, which people want to have/enjoy. It is their need, and soon you will realize, you also need someone to vent your feelings, emotions and ideas to. If your dad is not proving 'good lover' someone need to, as she needs and deserves someone's company. Do not panic. It is natural and not a sin.

Talk to her, about her life, ask her how is her life, her relationship with dad going on. Do not be too specific, but ask her about it, especially on a trip, for example, or on shopping trip. She can open

Actually, it could be a sin if they are doing more than chatting. It's called Adultery.

Confront her don't tell ur dad it will break ur family