I'm 12 years old, and yes I'm sure I love someone. It may seem young but I think of him ALL the time! I can't get him off my mind and whenever I see him.. Which isn't really a lot my heart skips about 10 beats!
L (the one I love) used to go to my school, but then we moved to different secondary schools. I went out with him once and we were a really sweet couple, I hadn't ever held a boys hand before, sorry let me rephrase that... I hadn't LET any boy hold my hand! I dumped him because of my ex, B, who kept telling me all these horrid things about me... To me! He made me so so so so insucure to the point I wanted to cry every night. This made me become a real player... Going out with all the boys.
Then we moved. He went to A School, and I went to B School. And yet I still loved him... (my parents taught me how strong the word love is so this word means A LOT to me!)
My Nan lives down the same road as him, but I never get to see him unfortunately.
Furthermore my cousin goes to A and is best friends with L. My cousin once told me L still likes me... But I can't even chat to him as I don't have his number, meaning I'll never know...
On Facebook he rarely comes on, but when he does and I try to speak he blanks me... So much so that I had to delete him as a friend (then I felt bad and added him again)
I have so many ways to speak to him... But how? What should I do? I can't forget about him.. PLEASE HELP!

First, I edited your post to remove identifying information. I don't know if you used real names or not, but its not worth taking the chance.

Second, I'm sure you feel you are in love. But at 12 years old, you are a child and shouldn't be trying to emulate adult behavior. And I think you are more enamored of the idea of being in love than actually in love.

You will probably go through this process several more times until you become an adult and maybe more times after that. Each time it will hurt and each time you will emerge a little stronger and wiser.

I thought that's what people would say, but I truly wholeheartedly (that how you spell it?) do! I can't explain how I feel about him!
Every time I go to my nans I dress really nice. Make sure I look pretty! Just in case he sees me. He never does
I forget to eat at school... and yes that does have something to do with 'L'... personal thing.
He has a girlfriend... and I. Feel like breaking down when I see her name. :/ I turned emo trying to forget him!

I'm not trying to minimize your feelings. I'm sure they are very real to you. But you have to understand these are all part of growing up.

Okay then, sorry. But whatc an I do...

You can do the same thing adults do in this same situation - focus on something else. It could be a hobby, schoolwork, other friends. You're at a tough age, and I appreciate that. I'm not minimizing your feelings.

If you re-read your question, though, you will see a lot of teenage and younger angst. It's not all that complicated.

You like him. He likes someone else. It happens.

You're 12. How old is he? There has to be a reason he doesn't answer you on Facebook. Are you being a pest?

We're in the same year at school, so 12. And I'm not I don't think, I just say hey then leave it. I don't think he really likes Facebook to be fair.

I am somewhat surprised that your parents allow you to date at 12 years old - or perhaps younger.

At any rate - I'd leave him alone. Stay busy with other things. What you consider to be making contact HE may consider to be bothering him.

I'd forget saying "hey" or anything else and leave him alone. Maybe if you stop chasing him he'll start chasing you.

:/ at one point I became a player too, my parents have only known me to have 2 boyfriends... I've had about 13! He probably won't say hi, but hey ho life goes on... I will have to see him all the time, when at my nans, my aunts and anywhere really!

And I think he's a little hurt I (dont really like this word) dumped him.

A player at 12 who lies to her parents about dating and boyfriends AND posts it on the Internet.

Amazing.

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A player at 12 who lies to her parents about dating and boyfriends AND posts it on the Internet.

Amazing.

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Sigh! Why do children think that emulating adult behavior is so glamorous. Most adults long for the carefree days of childhood.

And 13 boyfriends at 12? Indicates she doesn't really understand what a boyfriend is.

What the heck has this got to do with anything! I didn't ask you a serious question so you could judge me! I can see what you write, just direct it to me!
And JudyKayTee, I didn't lie to them. I just didn't tell them. What they don't know can't hurt them. And even if they did know, its not like I did anything with them. No kissing/holding hands involved... I posted it on the internet for help! After all this IS a help desk.
And ScottGem I'm not dumb, I know what a boyfriend is. I did like each one of them! Sheesh, this isn't helping the answer.

Sorry, liking someone does not make them a real boyfriend, heck even having sex with a boy does not make him a boyfriend. No you really have little idea what life is.

The answer is you need to start being honest with your parents, sorry at 12 you are silly enough to think that not telling is not lying, it is actually worst, it is a break of trust.

Time for you to stop trying to play adult and be a child for a while longer, you are not even mature enough to understand those things going on around you, or that advice given is your answer.

As Chuck said, no you don't seem to know what a boyfriend is.

You talk about a serious question then make comments about being a "player" at 12. Do you really expect us to take you seriously?

Not telling your parents is VERY wrong. It may not have been lying, but its close. Your parents are there to protect you and help you learn how to cope in an adult world. If you hide things from them they will not trust you and they will not be able to protect you.

And we ARE trying to help you. By making you realize that you don't have much of a clue about life and you need to grow up a lot before you try to emulate adult behavior.

We are not here to serve you as you seem to feel. We are here to help you in whatever we we feel best. Sometimes, being brutally honest and showing you the truth is the best way to do that.

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What the heck has this got to do with anything!! I didn't ask you a serious question so you could judge me! I can see what you write, just direct it to me!
And JudyKayTee, I didn't lie to them. I just didnt tell them. What they dont know can't hurt them. and even if they did know, its not like I did anything with them. No kissing/holding hands involved... I posted it on the internet for help! Afterall this IS a help desk.
And ScottGem I'm not dumb, I know what a boyfriend is. I did like each one of them! Sheesh, this isnt helping the answer.

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Priding yourself on being a player at 12? ADULTS who pride themselves on being players are jerks.

As far as what your parents don't know can't hurt them - no, but it sure can hurt you.

Why the big chip on your shoulder?

So tell ME what a boyfriend is at age 12 and what constitutes a player. Let's see, no hand holding, no kissing, I assume no sex, I assume the other 12 year old doesn't drive. I am assuming the "boyfriend" can't afford to take you out to dinner - of course, if he did you'd have to walk.

You keep things from your parents that you post on an open forum.

Well, at least this is posted in the correct forum - children.

This is one case where I wear the "dislike" as a badge of honor - wonder who gave it to me and thought it was acceptable for a 12 year old to lie or withhold the truth from her parents and "date" (whatever tghat means) AND pride herself in being a player. Yes, this is DEFINITELY a compliment.

I don't pride myself in it. And we hugged... went to the cinema and into town! That's a date! Seriously.
And sure, I'm a jerk. Whatever. That was in the past. I don't care, and the people I went out with didn't really like me I don't think. Nobody really likes me.
I did that so I wasn't bullied anymore! Yes, this is a sob story but no, I am not trying to make you feel sorry for me.
And ScottGem, being 'brutally honest' doesn't have to involve you insulting me. And practically calling me dumb, which I'm not.

You all, clearly, don't understand how it feels to be second choice. Never wanted. Tagging along because otherwise you'd get the crap beaten out of you. Still happens in secondary. Except I can't tag along because people really don't like me. My 'friends' have ditched me.
I feel depressed all the time now, and have taken on the full Emo thing... including... well... you know what I've done to myself.
I say all this, but I don't normally cry... that won't help. But you've made me.

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I did that so I wasn't bullied anymore! Yes, this is a sob story but no, i am not trying to make you feel sorry for me.

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If you weren't looking for sympathy, you wouldn't have told us that. Stop kidding yourself.

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But how? What should I do? I can't forget about him.. PLEASE HELP!

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Oh yes you can. You can get over anybody, you just need to believe that you can. And, right now, you don't have the right attitude. So, change it!

Let's see - no one likes you. The only common denominator is you in that scenario.

I see two emotions here - anger and self pity.

You need to talk to a professional, and that can be someone at your school. Life is going to get a lot worse as you grow older if you don't somehow get some intervention.

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And ScottGem, being 'brutally honest' doesn't have to involve you insulting me. And practically calling me dumb, which I'm not.

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Did I insult you? Don't believe I did nor call you dumb. But the truth sometimes hurts. We sometimes don't like seeing ourselves as others see us. So if it's the truth, its not necessarily an insult.

The kind answer is - you are unhappy and depressed and unwanted (or so you say). Take a look at your life - you pride yourself in being a player; you've had X number of "boyfriends" (what "boyfriend" means in your World); you figure what your parents don't know won't hurt them.

None of that is working for you. Maybe you should try something different.

No one here is out to get you. No one here thinks you are dumb. Do you make bad choices? Yes, that appears to be the case. You are the one who came on with a big chip on your shoulder. To a certain extent that attitude bounced back in your face in the responses.

You need to look at your issues. If you think you are alone, unwanted, unloved at your age and don't change wait until you see what your life is like in 10 years.

As far as the "player" thing is concerned - boys/men will read you like a book and either play you back, higher, harder and faster than you ever dreamed possible, emotionally, financially, sexually - OR shun you completely. Girls/women won't want to be your friend. Who wants to be friends with someone who isn't honest and/or sincere?

You could be in for a very rough road.