My Girlfriends Parents are abusive and controlling
So... When I met my girlfriend, I knew I had met my soulmate. She is my other half. However, I learned quickly that she has extremely abusive (verbally and physically) parents who are extremely controlling. They have tried to break us up, demand attention and time, and hate me because I am taking their slave/hobby away from them. They are her adoptive parents which adds to the confusion of this situation.
While she was going through grad school, they would hide her textbooks from her and lock her in her room and hide her keys so she couldn't go anywhere. They have tried to sabotage her in every aspect of her life.
They sabotaged her financial aid for her last semester, and I ended up financially supporting her.
After several months of spending time with my family, she was able to recognize that her family is unsafe and unhealthy, eventually leading to my calling the police on her parents so that she could safely move out. My family welcomed her with open arms; she lived with me and my parents for several months.
I have always said to her that I will not ask her to choose between me or her parents. As messed up as they are, they are her family - HOWEVER, I had told her from the start that there needs to be distance between them and her and that they are too invasive and controlling.
I left my job, left my state, and got an apartment with her. Now a few months later, I am in the situation where she is talking to them every day and text her 15-30 times a day. She has the same relationship with them now as she did before - the only difference now is that she doesn't live with them, but lives with me.
Her life is so consumed by them that it's pushing me out. Her solution for this is for me to spend more time with her parents... She is choosing to work on her relationship with her abusive parents rather then work on her relationship with her loving boyfriend.
I have sacrificed and changed my entire life for her - I have no idea what to do. I can see her choosing them over me - I feel helpless.