My boyfriend broke up with me 7months ago. He was my first relationship and I was his first too. I am 23 and he is 24. We had been together about 2,5 years with a break of a few months between.
The reason he left me is that he realised that our relationship seemed that was going to last, and he was afraid that he would end up married with the first and only woman he ever had... :( That, I learned that he said to a cousin of his recently. He had mentioned it to me too.But basically he had told me about some other staff that annoyed him, really silly things that were easy to ''fix''(ex. We used to sleep together every night in my or his house,even if sometimes it was difficult due to our schedule.That could change!)These,I believe were excuses.He also said to his cousin that he is not that indifferent to me, and we never know about the future,but at the time,that's what should have happened.
We haven't had much of communication.The first months nothing.Then with email, sms, on the phone once.He seems with a good mood towards me.I wrote in an email that I intend to call him to tell our news and he said I could call on his cell cause he was away, or I could call home in a week he' return. I haven't called yet,but he doesn't either, even he had the chance.
A few days ago we met randomly in a club.I saw him first and talked to him.We talked fine! He also told one of his friends I was there and she came to talk to me. The rest of the night I was with my back towards him and dancing, but my friend who had eye contact said he was looking at me frequently. And while I was sending an sms late at night he stared at me.
I don't know about a fling in summer, but he hasn't had a relationship ever since we broke up. So no experiences he was searching. Even though I like him, he isn't really that good looking, and he doesn't have much success in girls. So he isn't going to gain the experience he wants soon. It's going to take him a little longer...
I don't wait, but I think of him and I want him.
Do you thing there is any way or possibility that sth happens again between us?:confused:

All those insecurities and no communication and I don't mean small talk. Leave him alone and let him find his own way for now while you enjoy your youth and have a life without him.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

All those insecurities and no communication and I don't mean small talk. Leave him alone and let him find his own way for now while you enjoy your youth and have a life without him.

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I have left him alone, I' m not doing anything to disturb him...
But I just can't stop wondering if we could ever be together again. Given that he didn't leave me cause he didn't care, but because he felt inexperienced to go on with a relationship that seemed to be getting very serious (and that it could last forever perhaps , with the only woman he was ever invovlved)

Only time will tell. I personally don't think "waiting" like that is wise. And make no mistake about it, that's you torturing you with those thoughts. When you break up, its over and should be considered for good. Otherwise its playing games since only the immature use breaking up as a way to indicate the relationship has problems. Mature ones tell each other that before the break up so there is a chance of working it out.

I say try it again. But don't let things slip into their old ways. You only live once, listen to your heart and not your head

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Originally Posted by nessykate12

I say try it again. But dont let things slip into their old ways. you only live once, listen to your heart and not your head

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Er, you're two years late with the advice. Oops.