My 28yo daughter is hooked on heroine and she is slowly killing herself. I have temporary custody of my 2yo grandaughter as well as having been let go from my job 3 months ago. I don't know how I am going to get through this. I try to concentrate on my grandaughter, making sure she is well taken care of, and she is. But every time I hear something about my daughter, it sends me in a spiralling chaotic mess of sadness and despair. As I write this I was just told by my second younger daughter that her sister has been taken from her place on a stretcher to the hospitol. This roller coaster of emotions from seeing my grandaughter and feeling happiness and joy when I look into her eyes; to the deep horrific depression every time I am informed about her mother and what she is doing to herself is too much for me to bare. My resolve is wearing thin and it is getting more difficult to cope with this situation.

This is hard to hear but ask them not to tell you any more about her, it is hard to do, but she has made her choices and sometimes we just have to let them go.

Drug users tend to be dependent on the drug and their next fix.They surround a world were you and the daughter are 2nd.Pretend her daughter "died".She would have course feel guilty and then the fight or flight effect will start.Your daughter will get stronger and fight her dependence on drugs of flight off with the drugs and keep using them.Make a video of her when she was sober,with lots of memories of happy times.talk to her Don't YELL OR JUDGE HER because then the words will not go in her head.All you need to do is figure a way to make her have a epiphany.

Addiction certainly has reverberating effects. It influences everyone around the addict. Those that care about them. Those that depend on them.

Dealing with an addict is terribly frustrating and heart breaking. You can see what they are doing to themselves and others but they seem obilivious to the consequences.

Regardless of the drug, addicts do recover. Most on their own, some through professional intervention. Perhaps if your daughter is hospitalized she will detoxed and placed into a methadone program or other maintenance. That's a starting point.

Here is a link to a support group for families of addicts.* Getting involved with such an organization will assist you by providing insight into the behavior of addicts and how others in your position have dealt with similar problems. Your grand daughter, dependent on her age, will also benefit either now or in the future.

One of the truisms of the treatment field is that addiction is a family disorder. You can't live with or have an addicted loved one without being personally affected.

*there are many family support groups available. This is but one. Just find one that you can relate to. I do recommend a group that focuses on the particular type of addiction your daughter suffers.