I've been with this girl about 2 years. At first as in most relationships we had sex a lot. Then it slowed after the first year a lot, but she was often not in the mood, she was going through some depression at the time as well. Now that has passed, but I still feel like she loosely turns down sex when I am in the mood. Is there anything I can do to break this cycle. She will initiate sometimes but I never turn her down. I feel like she has got usefd to saying she's not in the mood sometimes and doesn't get that it hurts to be turned down even though I've brought it up. Any advice? Thanks.

My advice? Talk to her, ask her. Presumably she knows why there's a problem.

Sex is one part of a relationship and needs to be discussed - just like other parts of a relationship.

Want to bet she was feeling like a booty call... has there ever been any consideration to taking the relationship to the next level...

Some women aren't happy with being "just" a girlfriend forever... true two years isn't a long time... but its not like you just met either... maybe she's not happy with the status quo?

After all... the world doesn't revolve around having sex... she sees it... but do you? She was probibly feeling like more of a semen receptacle than a potiential fiancée or future wife.

Nice answer Smoothy

And the difference between consensual sex and rape is a matter of her saying yes or no.