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  • Dec 24, 2011, 02:55 PM
    anthony111
    Is it OK to date a 14 old girl, when I am a 17 old boy?
    Hi, I have a girlfriend, and she's is 14 years old, and I am 17 years old. We been dating for a year now, and and we haven't done anything beyond kissing, and we plan to keep it that way until she's at the age of consent. I love her a lot, and she loves me too. We have talked about this. I don't want to lose her. I love her too much.
  • Dec 24, 2011, 03:58 PM
    talaniman
    What do her parents think? Do you have to sneak around to see each other? Do you know that even kissing can be trouble for a guy your age?

    Dating, is not illegal, if her parents are okay with it, but if they don't know, you both can be in trouble. You with the law. You don't have to go beyond just kissing for there to be a problem with the law, as long as she is a minor.
  • Dec 24, 2011, 04:13 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    So if you have been "dating" since she was 12, what is the problem, Or have you not done it with her parents knowing.
    Of course even kissing could be an issue, since at certain ages, even touching though the clothes is child molesting in some areas.

    So what does your parents say about this ?
    What does her parents say about this.
  • Dec 24, 2011, 04:25 PM
    Xerxes12
    I think Father Chuck is heading you in the right direction. If you love her, truly love her and don't want to lose her: talk with her parents and get their support for your relationship and follow their guidance/boundaries.

    You will soon be an adult and she will not - you have much to lose if you do not take care. Not only your relationship but perhaps you may get into legal troubles - take care and make sure to talk with her and her parents.
  • Dec 25, 2011, 09:02 AM
    anthony111
    Thanxs so its OK to go with her then we just hug and sometimes kiss nothing ells and my mate says to age is a number it doesn't matter I been with a yunger lass than than then I was 16 I was going with 13 old girl but the thing is I really love this girl so mutch I lover to bits and she's feels the same to about me I domd won't to lose her
  • Dec 25, 2011, 10:07 AM
    Fr_Chuck
    Depends on where you are at, since it may be OK to date, but not to have any sexual ( physcial contact) if you touch her even though clothing, can be a crime against a minor in some places at her age.

    And who ever said age is just a number is a fool when it comes to minors who don't have maturity and are easy controlled by a older male.
  • Dec 25, 2011, 10:57 AM
    JudyKayTee
    If YOU thought it was "ok" you wouldn't be asking the question.
  • Dec 25, 2011, 01:35 PM
    talaniman
    I wonder why they never say anything about what the parents would say. Always leads me to believe that these so in love under aged girls are sneaking about with an older guy, and that's what's really wrong, and would lead to BIG trouble from a parent.

    Its only okay to date a minor if the parents, or guardian says so. Naw, they rather believe a dumb a$$ their own ages to tell them its okay.

    But if its worth jail time for, it must be love right?? Wake up young guys!!
  • Dec 25, 2011, 01:43 PM
    JudyKayTee
    And they don't have a clue that they can (and often are) charged with parental interference - and end up in the Court system, with or without having sex.

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