Ask Me Help Desk - Do not know what to do!

Well... I am in a relationship from last 2 years. Everything is going good, but from last 6 months I am feeling like, I do not love her (although I care about her a lot). Even I some time try to explain this feeling to her but she always get upset and the topic get vanished within a moment. I even told her that I need a break from the relationship to understand myself but she is not willing to do so.

She sometime also include a statement that she will die if I leave her. I do not know, I love her, or not, but I definitely care about her, and can't see a single tear in her eyes. I am keep trying to convince myself that I love her but I failed. Please please help me and suggest me, what can I do.

Sorry guy, but your indecision is what's confusing you. It is YOU who must decide what YOU want to happen, and then make it so. That would be doing the right thing for yourself, and sorry again, sometimes doing what's right will make others mad, sad, or cry.

You still must do what's right for you though, or live a lie that makes you miserable. Take a week, disappear, think alone, without influence, and then decide what YOU want, not what OTHERS want from YOU.

I don't know how old you are, or she actually, but statements like 'I would die if you leave me' are just immature and not healthy at all. She tends to keep you because 'she would die', doesn't care for how you feel at the moment.
The fact that you care for her is perfectly normal after that time being together. Staying in a relationship under these circumstances she's giving you is going to make you hate her eventually. I don't understand how she is not aware of that.

HI, Thank you so much for your valuable time and suggestions. Firstly Ivaaa, I am 24 and she is 22. So we are pretty mature but the situation like this can make anybody immature, which I understand but still I told her that I will definitely leave her if she ever try to do this kind of stupidity or even say this again.
Talaniman, I totally agree with you and I even tried to disappear couple of times (which also gives me a lot pain) but after getting approx 50 miscalls and 20 messages and Emails everyday, which include a sorry and a statement that she will change herself and our love feeling will soon comeback in the relationship. All this makes me understand her situation and force me to continue our relationship. Even currently I am avoiding her from last 3 days(just message her that I am busy), with the intention to decrease the level of pain and to release the addiction of each other.
Please, I need some more suggestion so that I can settle the situation or I am correct step or not.

Set boundaries and rules of good behavior that works for you both, including times to be together, and individual time to enjoy some space. These are things that couples do to work together through honest yet caring communications.

I am sorry Talaniman, but I still not get your suggestion. My question was, whether I am taking the correct step by avoiding her?. It is the 7th day, I had not spoke to her properly yet. I am daily getting many calls and messages but I am not responding them.
I hope you will understand my situation.
Thank you in advance.

To be honest I don't understand what you want. If its to break up, then leave her alone no matter what she does. But then you wrote this,

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Talaniman, I totally agree with you and I even tried to disappear couple of times (which also gives me a lot pain) but after getting approx 50 miscalls and 20 messages and Emails everyday, which include a sorry and a statement that she will change herself and our love feeling will soon comeback in the relationship. All this makes me understand her situation and force me to continue our relationship. Even currently I am avoiding her from last 3 days(just message her that I am busy), with the intention to decrease the level of pain and to release the addiction of each other.

Its is you who must decide what YOU will do then do it. This waffling back and forth is what has you NUTS!!! If indeed you are continuing the relationship, then you talk and set rules, NOT ignore her. If you want to cut her from your life, then you stop contact, and NOT cave, and change your mind.

Sorry guy, there will be pain for some time to come, no matter what you decide. No one can make this decision for you, because its your life, and your decision to make. She cannot force you to do anything you do't want to do, so what's your decision?