Ok I have this problem with my shyness which I can't get rid off. I always have this feeling of nervousness with my body heating up and my stomach having butterflies. Even when I'm alone just sitting in front of te computer I get this feeling; maybe because I wanted to talk to this girl on msn messenger but too hectic to open her chat window. When I see a group of people especially with nice women I get so anxious that I can't even say one word. This also involves new guys too. I do the "stop thinking negative thoughts" procedure but it just doesn't stop my body from shaking and heating up. I try to blank out my thoughts but still it doesn't stop me from feeling nervous. I do the focus on breathing technique, but no change in emotional state. One thing I discovered was that alcohol really puts you into a relaxed mood even though when you try to froce negative thoughts into your mind. So relaxed that the stuff I couldn't do due to anxiety were now so easy to do. I just love when there is alcohol in my system. It make life so great. I wanted to talk to this girl in the party but was so nervous even when I tried to bring the postivie thoughts out and eliminate the negative thoughts. After consuming some alcohol I was talking to the girl like now other. I discovered that all the things I wished I could do actually could be done. I wish I could be how I am when I'm relaxed from the alcohol consumption. I feel no matter what I do, nothing helps me from not being nervous in front a situation. I try my best but the result is mumbling and stuttering in front the girl. I know it's abusing alcohol when you consume everyday just to feel relaxed throughout the day, but I have no other choice. What can I do?