Okay to start, I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we have a kid together. So, a couple months ago me and his best friend started talking and he told me about a lot of stuff that my boyfriend was doing behind my back like smoking, popping pills and other stuff that he promised me he was going to stop doing. Just a little background info, his best friend has a girlfriend (I know her) and a kid as well, but they've been having A lot of problems and he finally left her. Anyway, me and the best friend have been sneaking around seeing each other and doing "things." The other weekend we were all at my bfs house (including the best friend) and my boyfriend was drunk and started getting out of hand and tried hitting me twice and at that point I had had enough and moved out. I know its wrong because their friends but the best friend sees first hand how he treats me and he hates it and that's why he started talking to me in the first place. Basically we want to eventually be together but of course the significant others would need to be told (his ex, my ex) and that will take some time because we both have young children and our others still play a big role in our lives. So the burning question is.. What it be worth mustering up to courage to let it be known and just be with him? Or should I just let it go because the situation is too messed up.

You are cheating.

That will never end well.

I feel sorry for your kid. That should be your real priority.

Messed up? Yup...

Do two cheaters belong together? Hell yeah, and it is messed up. Thing is, it's the kids who pay for the stupidity of the adults.

Why can't you both keep screwing around secretly, until you wake up to the reality of life. Use protection, because the last thing you need is to bring HIS baby into an already messed up situation..

Sure, then he can cheat with his ex when he is with you, or start cheating with your best friend.

This should have never gotten to this point, You need to leave both of them, and get your life straighted out.