People say its because of sweat and or shaving but they shouldn't get that big and be painful and they leave freakiing scars so embarrassing to have intercourse how do you explain to your partner? Ugh~! =( hELP

First of all, see your doctor. If it's bloody and painful it needs to be sorted.

You can then tell your boyfriend what it is, instead of guessing and worrying. Though don't feel like you HAVE to. It's a personal matter.

X Dani

Definitely see your doctor. And when you do, ask him/her if you might possibly be suffering from hidradenitis. You can read about it here: HS-USA.

If your doctor thinks that may be the case then, even though there is no known cure, many people have found that using tea tree oil helps to dry up the cysts. Tea tree oil is a natural topical antibiotic and is available in health food stores. You can try dipping a qtip in the oil and applying it very lightly to the cyst once or twice a day. Be careful because the stuff is very strong. If you find that it's too strong you can dilute it by wetting the qtip with water first.

Good luck!