I have been with my husband almost five years. Our whole relationship he has lied to me and hid things from me, mostly little things. I can't seem to trust him anymore. The past three years I haven't been sexually attracted to him. We currently are staying with my parents and if I divorce him he won't have a place to stay? What should I do?

If you have to ask the question, the answer is yes. Your happiness is more important. (no, there is no internal dilemma. He treats you like s*&%, he deserves s&?%% to happen to him).

P.S. Yeah, I sound intransigent but that's because I know too many people who regret not having left their husbands. They now feel like they wasted their lives caring for someone who never deserved it.

Why are the two of you living with your family?

But, yes, if you can't picture yourself married to him in the future, divorce him now. He'll make his own way - you aren't his mother.

He's a big boy who can't be responsible enough to behave the way a husband is supposed to behave.

There are consequences to your actions. He has to put his big boy pants on (provided he can find them) and find a place to live.

Your life is your responsibility and if someone has mistreated you, you need to worry about you and not what is going to happen to him. A grown man needs to be able to find his own place to live.