I know that my husband loves me a lot but lately I been concerned id he is sexually attracted to me. When we first got together we had sex for hours when we did have sex. Now after being married, he does it for like 5 minutes and he's done for the night. On occasion I try to get him excited so we can do it a second time and he gets mad at me and accuses me of being a nympho. He isn't hard half the time we are doing it. And he blames it on me and says that I'm not trying or some lame excuse. What are some other clues he isn't sexually attracted? We are in our 20's so and I know he doesn't need viagra.

U know I'm having the same problem.me and my husband have been together for 2 and a half years and we don't have sex like we used to.We used to have sex like 6 or 7 times a day now it's more like 4 or 5 times a month if I'm lucky.:confused: And every time I talk to him about it he says he too tired from work and that we don't have sex because our baby is in the room.I'm tired of the same excuses over and over and I just want the truth.So just be open with your husband.I'm finally getting somewhere with mine just don't give up on yours.;) goodluck

Try changing the scenery. Sometimes if your doing the same thing over and over again it becomes routine. I had the same problem for awhile,but I changed the scenery to see if she would play along. Try different places something daring! And if you don't already have them try some toys. Remember Sex is a great game,and you can change the rules anytime you want

I actually having the same problem with my husband, well I mean sometimes we do it a lot, example, I went on vacation for 2 weeks to see my family, we obviously didn't have anything during the time, but when I came back we had sex like 2x a day for the 1st 3 days I was home, and that was it, I understand he's tired but its been a week already and NOTHING!! I know he likes to spice things up and I do too, but some of the things he likes I don't like much, but I'm willing to do them for him, I don't mind, but the things I like to do he doesn't, and he won't even try to do them, that where my problem comes in. I don't know, maybe your husband likes something u don't know about, because that was how it started with us. I wish you the best of luck! ;)

There are many reasons sex declines in a relationship and this does not mean that your partner finds you unattractive. Sometimes outside interference such as work, children, family etc... cannot always be left outside the bedroom door.
In the beginning of a relationship is it common to have sex more often then as time progresses. This is normal as the "newness" of the relationship wears off and "life" issues come into view. Trying to enhance your relationship doing something silly like role-playing or dressing in something sexy and surprising your partner can add variety. Personally I would rather have quality than quantity.

Hi sexual issues don't have anything to do with you... after a relationship is stable, and he "caught you", he feels he doesn't have to work on sex anymore... wanting to have sex till you are fulfilled doesn't make you a "nympho" either... get him the dictionary and read to him what that actually is... then maybe tell him what you need... women aren't as fast as men are sexually, there's no need to walk thru life wishing you had sex all the time... and you cxan tell him the fact is, this is why women and men cheat...

He is probably still attracted to you, but the mind is a strange thing. I'm in that same situation with my wife. I love her, and find her mega attractive, but after 15 years I have problems keeping or maintaing an erection. I do other things to pleas her, but I feel terrible because of my problem. Your husband could be going through the same thing. He is probably pretending that it is not bothering him, but believe me it is. He is probaby ashamed and doesn't know how to talk about it. Give him. Take it easy on him.

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Originally Posted by branlynn

I know that my husband loves me alot but lately i been concerned id he is sexually attracted to me. When we first got together we had sex for hours when we did have sex. now after being married, he does it for like 5 minutes and he's done for the night. On occasion i try to get him excited so we can do it a second time and he gets mad at me and accuses me of being a nympho. he isnt hard half the time we are doing it. and he blames it on me and says that im not trying or some lame excuse. what are some other clues he isnt sexually attracted? we are in our 20's so and i know he doesnt need viagra.

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My husband actually had that problem a little before we got married. It IS NOT that he isn't sexually attracted to you. A lot of things can cause a man to go limp or not have a hard on at all. Stress, his diet, no exercise, tired, lack of sleep, worried... so on so forth. And as for blaming you, he probably is just reacting to your accusation as to why he isn't "preforming." As you may know, a man thinks that his penis is his "glory", the only thing in the world that makes him a man... so when you attack the very thing that he feels like shows his "masculinity" he gets upset and angry, and then you NEVER get what you want. Have you tried asking him to see a doctor? There could be something wrong. There is a such thing as erectile disfunction and it doesn't just effect older men. That is a VERY COMMON misconception. I am only 20 myself and my husband is 24, he is getting better now because I don't pester him about it like I use to. And I felt the same way you did, but he would always reassure me that it wasn't me. So babe, maybe try backing off a little and eventually he will come around... unless you think he could be cheating... then, by all means, kick his . If you have anything you would like to disscuss with me feel free to IM me or email me at [email protected] I am usually on MSN or Yahoo Mess. So, I hope you get through this.

P.S. If you have kids then that could be a reason his sex drive is low too... tell you more about that if you IM me though, I'm tired of typing now lol.