My husband and I have been together for almost two years. We have been married for about three months. And he just found out that he has a child from an ex... Now I have lost everything for him. I ran away from home and now my whole family doesn't talk to me. I have risked many things for him. And I don't know what to do. I love him and I am willing to forgive him but I just don't know if that's the right thing to do. I know many people say to end the marriage but I just can't. I have nowhere else to go... I need someone's opinion on this. Please help

How old is the child, next was there a DNA test to prove it was his/

If he just found out then he had no prior knowlage of it going into the marriage and its was pure as far as intentions goes. Yes he has a child by another. Many families today deal with that on a daily basis. Its not something you throw away a marriage for unless it was from infidelity. Then you have a grievence.

For now this is a bump in the road of life and you never know. You may have a child tugging at your heartstrings soon. Don't let it tear you into pieces.

Unless there is some moral or religious reason to oppose this situation then try to get a grip on it and after some rethinking consider your options. Right now is not the time to jump to harsh conclusions.

I'm not really sure how old the child is. All I know is that she already had it. She just never told him anything. And he's there was a DNA test and it is his

I guess we are asking is the child 3 years old, or 3 months old, that makes a difference.

I don't know exactly how old the child is. But he is NOT 3 years old.. I'm guessing maybe a few months old

How old were you when you left home?
To tell you the truth, I might consider contacting your parents through another relative, to ask them what they think. We don't know you or your husband or the woman who is the mother of his child. Ask the people who do know them. You'd be surprised how a family that won't talk to you will, when you need help.

I was 17 and I'm 18 now...

Also, before you agonize more, do the math. You have been together 'almost 2 years.' 20 months? How many? Pregnancy 9 months + 11 month old baby = 20 months, maybe right before you two got together? Find out and let us know.

Ok I will...

It did happen before we got together...

So are you feeling a little better? Hopefully this will all be OK soon, despite knowing that there is a child of his out there? He may be taken to court for child support... it will have an effect on your future, and he may get involved in the child's life too. Marriage does have aspects we don't always want, and we have to make compromises. (I say 'we' and I'm divorced, but I'm also 65 years old.)

O OK.. Well I guess I just have to just think this out and talk to him (cause I haven't really talked to him in a while). Hopefully we can get through this and make our marriage work.. Even though he thinks he is a bad person and feels really bad. I think he feels like if he doesn't deserve me.. But thanks anyway for everything

I asked a question yesterday about what I'm going through with my husband right now... Now I think the whole thing about him having a child by someone else is all a lie. I don't know if it is or not I'm just guessing. Because I saw a picture of him and this other girl together. I don't know what to do anymore. He is rarely home now and I haven't talked to him this whole week... And he won't talk to me either. I don't know what to do can someone please help? I'm desperate

Please don't start new posts, Rios, when you already have a thread started and see someone has already merged your new post into this one.

Aside from emotional support, and advice, I don't see how we can help you further.

What makes you think the baby was a lie? If he used that as an excuse to get out of a relationship with you, then he is not functioning on a mature level. You are both in your teens, right? If you want sort this out, you will have to pin him down and talk this through... if he can cope with it, and it doesn't seem he can.

Did you say you two were married ?

Guessing will just drive you crazy with worry, like you did over when the alleged baby was conceived. Now you are guessing that there is no baby, because you saw a picture? And suddenly he's never home? Yesterday he was all apologetic and feeling terrible. You are all over the place here.

What in the world does a PICTURE have to do with him lying? Please, we are trying to help you and you are just sort of making stuff up as you go, stuff that has no sense to it. PLEASE GET THE FACTS and ask again.

A couple who can't communicate is immature and doomed. TALK to him. Calmly. No accusations, no suspicion, just ask, nicely, politely.

Ok I followed the advice given to me... And I can proudly say that it saved my marriage. Thank y'all :)

Yay