Please someone help! :(

I know a girl since couple month, I love her so much she live about three blocks away from my house. I talk and chat with her everyday for hours and hours she seems happy and enjoying talking to me. We share our secrets together. We get along well. We have some connections. It is her who makes me happy.

We weren't at the same school at the beginning. She want to change to study with me in the same school, but the last time I realize that she's changing, she told me that she like someone else in her school, and she didn't want to change anymore, she like him, so I told her how much he's lucky he will not find a girl like you. I think she knows how much I care for her, and how I want be with her, she had a bad experience with her ex-boyfriend, so I didn't have the opportunity to tell her how much I loved her. I was scared.

She told me that tomorrow she will talk with the man in her school, so I think I'm ****ed up; no chance ! I think I'll not find a girl like her in my whole life; she said that she like me so much, but I think she's seeing me just like a friend, she will propose to him tomorrow, so I think I have no chance, and I'll kill myself to not think about her, but I can't. She's always on my mind. Do I have another chance?

I don't think so, (**** my life)

Amthedon,

Welcome to this beautiful site, first!

O just carry on talking with her. Slow and steady win the race. I am sure, one day she will fall in your lap, and will scream, "Really, you are so faithful, but I was looking for love, outside, little realizing that your love is true and lasting. Pardon me." Wait and watch, but do not ignore her. Carry on the communication.

Amthedon,

Tell her, what you feel about her. Just relax, and communicate to her, how important she is for you. I wish you good luck. You have written that you have a sort of connection with her. Can I ask as to which type of connection do you have with her? Remember - never detach yourself from her, even if she tries to. Just be with her, close to her and try to be in touch with her and try to be in her good books. Give her gifts on her b'day. Give her what she likes. Share your feelings with her, somehow, if you get chance.

Good luck!

Thank you so much for your help!
I'm really afraid to lose her , when she's not even mine :(
I'm sure that the guy will accept her and he'll become her boyfriend soon ( because she's so beautiful and really kind when you talk to her ) and she like him even if she didn't know him... I'm dying inside!! :( Just happened to me for the first time )
So I have a really small chance I'm praying
It's my fault I hesitate.. I was afraid at the beginning.. because she told me that one of her friend want to date her and she didn't like that.. she said ' why I can have a man just like a friend everyone want to go out with me and I feel uncomfortable with them.. so I was scared to tell her what I feel(this is my big fault ) I though that she want me to be just a friend to her but I love her more than she can imagine :( so sad !
Sorry for my english..

Amthedon,

Nothing unusual. You seem to be trying to be becoming Mr.Goody Goody. Is not it?

Okay, no problem. If she sincerely liked and loved you, you MUST now tell her, everything in black and white. If she is KIND, as you claim, she will surely ACCEPT you with open arms. Just try. Do not hesitate.

But, still if you lose, or she does not accept you, do not cry. The world is big, vast and large. There will be many more, who will be ready to accept you, no doubt, but do not lose her, not lose heart even. Just go to her, talk to her. She will not kill you.

I wait for your reaction and response. Is my answer HELPFUL?

I go out with her about 2 times with a friend of mine I give her a gift.. I was like this is a friendship gift' no other connection with her.. she look at me with a smile.. on Facebook she always like my pictures and my stauts she like my style and my life.. once , she said I want to be with you and we will ignore the whole world we go away and we will never comeback.. but I think she is talking with some signe and meaning.. I can't understand :s
The same time I'm writing this.. I feel heartbroken without any chance.. . at least only god know :(

Amthedon,

It is just imagination, I hope. She loves you, from the core of her heart, I pray. Do not just lose heart by cooking imaginational stories. You might be in the heart of her hearts. Has she long hair, cutting or trimmed hair? Tell me.

Okay, so, what makes you fear that you may lose her?

I wait for your reaction and reply. Hope, it helps.

Kahani Punjab,
Thank you so much for your help.
This girl mean a lot for me.. does that even mater to her ? I always tried to help her in her life even if I know her for juste a couple month , she's talking to me more then her old friend I can see that on Facebook...
I tried to show her , hoping she understend how I love her ;
I love her so muuuuch :'( I can't imagine my life away from her I'm afraid to loose her beacause I don't know what I represent for her if I'm just a friend in her eyes she will said I'm sorry I can't and then she will not talk to me again like she does with a friend of her when he told her what he feel about... so I'm not sure ithink I will hurt her if she want me to be juste a friend... because I'm happy when she's happy.. this is a true love I don't care..
She has not a really long hair ; black hair .
I'm wondering why you aske about her hair lol

Am The Don,

So, dear, be a don. But, no, not in those common terms, but just buck yourself up, go to her, and TELL HER, "I love you, and I can't live without you, can't imagine my life without you." I am sure, she will stand by you, will care for you and will say YES, I AM YOURS, forever. Did not you try it? Aobut her hair, I asked if she cuts/trims hair.

Kahani, I don't think it is good to give this guy that advice.
If this girl likes another guy, no matter how much he loves her she still likes someone else.

amthedon, just as you found her, you will find someone else. I am assuming you are young and this is your first crush. You have not known her that long. Your feelings are awfully intense.
You need to accept the fact that she likes someone else and get over her.

Kahani Punjab .
Thank you again You Really Helped Me .
Believe me I'll try to tell her how much I loved her in front of all her friend... I think nobody wants to see us together they are jealouse :( beacause we understand each other and evreybody want her, she even date a famouse football player for a while.. last night she wrote on Facebook I'm sorry because I hurt someone.. I think she was talking about me. Because I was heartbroken when she told me she likes someone :( even if I smile and I told her that I'm happy for her..
This is sad for me
Thanks !

Your right

You won't find anyone like her in your life..

But guess what! You will find someone who loves you back! And who you love!
Then you will experience a real relationship

What you are doing now is hell on earth you are best friends with the women you love
She knows I'm sure.

My advice is to start distancing yourself from her and her not going to the same school as you is a blessing this will give you time to focus on yourself and find a real relationship.

I know you think it's the end of the world and you will never love anyone like her in your life
And you want her more than anything. Etc etc

We have all been there and done that.

Guess what it does get better so much better.
Right now its just LUST that's all it is.. the want

Take some time away from her to clear your head

@TrueFaith .
Thank you for your help..
I really did understand what you told me.. I think she know how much I love here
I'll start preparing myself to accept the fact that she's not mine.
I'm sorry about that :(
Idid all my best... she loves someone else... it's hard to accept this...
I'll try to forget her.. sorry :(

Thanks to all for your help !

Many here have been through this.
You will get through it too.
I wish you well.

It's not easy I have been just where you have been as have most of the people on this site. One thing to always remember you are not alone :) and you have people on here that will support and help you

All the best!

Thank you for all your support :)
From right now I'm trying to do my best to pass through this.. even if I have to forget this girl :( and start thinking about my future..
Since I know her I forget my life and my friend realize how much I changed
This is hard to me after all I did for her trying to make her feel happy and comfortable with me...
Thx to all and thanks to this amazing website ,
Pray for me :(

You will get through this in time, and be better for it. At least next time you will make your intention clear earlier, and not hesitate because YOU were afraid.

That was the whole problem any way. And never bring a friend on a date when you are looking for romance. Be clear, and not wishy washy... next time.

Learning life lessons is never easy, that's why the are called growing pains... because they hurt like hell for EVERYBODY!

Here is another lesson, when they like someone else, forget romance, think friend, or back off. Don't just follow your heart, out of false hope.

Talaniman: I agree with you. Your words are as always very clear and motivating.

No doubt, relationships are important, but never show yourself to be dependent or a poor fellow. Just be helpful, supportive and independent, so that you really become important in her eyes. Girls tend to fall for the guys, who care less for such stuff (like love), but are very bold, independent and loving. What you need to have is gutts, courage and determination, but do not show up your dependence or possessive nature.

Don't worry man, believe it or not I am going through the SAME F****** THING a few months ago. It's going to take you a year or so to get over it like me, but trust me I got over it and felt just like you. It is impossible for someone to never get over something like that. How about you TRY to "behave" or think that you got over it and you will. I know it sounds complicated and stupid but trust me I know what I am saying. Why? Of coarse me sitting behind the internet won't really help you. But I am trying my best to actually help you out by telling you that you AREN'T the only one who went through this. I still see the person I liked around, my friends sometimes tease my about it too. But you can't MAKE someone like you, you just need to accept some flaws in life. But I swear, I thought the same way and went through the exact tense situation.

If you want a straight up answer, I'll tell you. Talk to her and just treat her as friends.
Tell her how much you like her you might hit the jackpot but chances are slim.
Get over it! I know you can't control that feeling but at least try maybe.
There is no way to FORCE someone to like you. I know this is the type of stuff you don't want to read or hear but I am only telling you what I did. And that's what I did.