Should I break up with my fiancé?
Hello, So I'm going through this terrible time in our relationship. I love my fiancé very much, but I find himself being very self-centred sometimes. So we're getting married next year in December. Like every girl in the world, I want to have a good wedding (not very luxurious, but a decent one).
I'm from India, and so is he; and in our culture parents pay most for the weddings. Usually the bride's side organizes the wedding and reception is done by the male's side. However, our situation is messed up because his parents are not financially stable to pay for the wedding, but he works at a nice place and he has a fairly good pay. Since his parents won't pay for the reception and all, he is responsible for that.
Now, we have had this conversation before about the car he wants to get before we get married. He has told me this before and we have fought over this several times and my suggestion is that he waits till we get married and once we're settled together, we can buy a car. He has refused several times and again he brought the same topic up. What bothers me is that we won't start our wedding on a happy note not being very financially stable because he would be buying an expensive car and will be in debt.
We had a long fight today over this because he tells me not to control him. I'm not controlling him in any way. I just want our marriage to start nicely. I'm graduating next year in May and I hope to find a job as soon as I graduate. However, I can't guarantee that I will find a job by the time we get married. This is another one of my fears because I don't want to be a burden on him right after getting married. I feel really bad because we said some nasty things to each other today. I just lost it today and now when I think about this, this should never have happened.
I love him very much and we both talked about breaking up today. I can't break up with him, but at the same time I can't be with him if he keeps his car as a priority and treat me like I don't exist and not think about the wedding.
Please help me and tell me what to do?