My girl friend only comes around when my husband is around. I don't hear from her and when I call she is busy, makes excuses. She don't want to do anything with me any more, but she is coming around always talking to my husdband, and don't come in to talk to me. When I step out of the house she leaves why.

Marry T

Welcome to this beautiful site, first!

From your post, I presume, you have lesbian tendencies, OR she is just your friend. Clarify, I wait.
I fear either she is interested in your husband, or she wants to just tease you.

Have you talked to your husband about your concerns? If she is/was a friend, have you asked her what's up? I would.

Sounds like she (your friend) has some kind of issue. You said your friend is either busy or makes excuses to talk to you when you call her. You also said, when you step out of your house to talk with her, she leaves. How long has she been doing that?

If I were you, I would try to talk to her no matter what to find out why she is behaving the way she is. Maybe she is upset with you. Maybe they are planning a (birthday) surprise for you? There are a lot of possibilities, yet, you will not know unless you try to speak with her in private. You should go to her residence and talk with her in private or email her or whatever you need to do in order to communicate your concerns/questions to her. Does your husband tell you what she spoke to him about? Does your husband feel uncomfortable with your friend coming around only when he is there? The only way to find out what's going on is by finding out. If she continues to avoid you then I would find another friend. Talk with your husband and find out what he has to say about this matter. Good luck. Hope it all works out for you.

Imaflower2011,

You have hit the nail, on the head. Moreover, with only one (more) post to your credit, you have shown much experience and wisdom in this post. Hats off! I appreciate your effort, and call on you too, to appreciate the efforts, put up by others, to answer the questions, put up here. Welcome to this site, imaflower2011!

About the OP (marryt)'s query, I would also suggest her to talk to her as well as husband, to have a clue about what's (going) on. Moreover, try to find from some other sources, (without your hubby or girlfriend, getting to know that you are trying to search about them) about their relationship. Do not believe in what your hubby or girlfriend say, but their answer or reaction and the way, they do it, will disclose much of what they do not want to say, i.e. what they want to hide.