I left my boyfriend 2 months ago. There has been no contact since the day I left him. He called me 2 days after I left, but I never returned his call, and he left a message, but it got deleted before I could hear it. I am going crazy. Im depressed. Wishing, hoping, crying! I think about him every second. I've tried everything to forget him. I just want him to call!

Has he moved on?
What are the chances he might call soon?
Will I ever hear from him again?


AND, I will add, I've checked his FB page and he hasn't been on since I left him two months ago! Its like he completely fell off the face of the earth or something. I miss him terribly. It really hurts.

If you are interested in possibly getting back together, contact him. Why continue to put yourself through such misery?

At least you will have a chance to find out whether he has indeed moved on or if he may still be interested himself.

Once you know something, you can either finally put the relationship to rest, and work at moving on, or you can figure out what made you break it off in the first place and see if that can be remedied so that it isn't a problem again.

The idea of NO CONTACT is for you to forget him, for you to move on. What have you done to move on, it sounds like he may be. So have you dated ? Are you don't other activities.

But yes, if you want, break no contact and call him, no contact is not a way to make him come back, it is a way to get over him.

Yes, Fr_Chuck, I recently got a new job and Ive been working Full-time, I started going to church, making new friends. I haven't seen anybody yet, but Ive made some guy friends. But everybody I meet seems pale in comparison to him.

Thanks Doula, But what I really want to know is if he might call me soon? Because I would rather wait and see if he will contact me before I contact him..

There is no way of knowing if or when he might call. He hasn't called in two months, my guess is that he likely won't. Who knows... his message that was deleted may have been for you to call him if you wanted to get back in touch. We don't know the circumstances of the break-up or what either of you may have been thinking at the time.

If you can't stand the not knowing, call him. If you are thinking that you might want to get back together, the worst that could happen is that he tells you that he has moved on and is not interested. Then you will know once and for all that it is over and can focus on moving on yourself.

Thank you so much for the advice.. The reason I ask is really because I know that I will never work up the nerve to call him. I have always been the type of girl to never call the guys, always wait for them to call you. I know that's really old fashioned but its always worked better for me.


Ugggh its just so frustrating! I thought that by leaving him I would avoid all of this crap! I don't even know why I left anyway. I guess I was just confused.

Anyway thanks for hearing my story I know a lot of people really don't care about a complete strangers breakup lol I didn't think anyone would reply.

How about a Facebook message or email if you can't call him,
Just a note, like How are you doing ?

I was thinking about Facebooking him but he has not been on fb in over 2 months. Like, no updates, no new friends, nothing! I find that really weird because when we had problems in the past he LOVED to share it with everyone on Facebook. Like one time he put a status up "What does it mean when she says she wants a break?" and just things like that. But its like he hasn't even been online at all. And he never checks emails.

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Originally Posted by dreamcatcher227

anyways thanks for hearing my story i know a lot of people really dont care about a complete strangers breakup lol i didnt think anyone would reply.

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You are very welcome... :) We are here to help whenever possible.

Do you know any of his friends or do any of your friends know him? You could always tell one of them to let him know that you were asking about how he was doing? What about his address... perhaps send him a card.

He may not have updated anything on his Facebook, but he could still check it now and then... you could still send him a message in case he does.

If you don't feel comfortable with trying to contact him, then you will have to continue to work at letting it go and moving on. Try not to compare other guys with him, that aren't the same. It will get easier in time and as you meet more people.

I hope it works out for you with whatever you decide to do.