Why won't my partner have sex with me?
Well this will be a bit of a story so apologize beforehand. Well I met my partner 4 and half years ago. We were always at it all the time at every opportunity possible and in the strangest places etc.
We have 2 kids also but we have also lost 2. we had our daughter and our sex lives didn't change at all. Then I lost 1 before our son and fell pregnant soon after. During pregnancy our sex life stayed the same. Then our son was born. He didn't seem to want sex as much which was fine, maybe about 4 times a week, but then it got worse and went to maybe 2 times a week. Then I found out I was pregnant again but was on contraception, so it was a shock.
It was a ectopic pregnancy so my tube got removed and I changed my contraception before leaving the hospital. I'm covered again and now he won't have sex at all, or barely. I have tried everything but nothing seems to work at all. I can lie nude next to him and nothing. I can do everything and nothing at all happens. If I try and touch him he pushes me away or says ill cuddle into you just to get me to leave him alone.
So now I don't bother as the more he rejects me. We lay back to back in bed and just feel like robots. Really, he never kisses me, never cuddles me, never tells me he loves me. We've always been social and went out almost every weekend or every 2nd weekend. Now all he wants to do is go out with a few drinks with friends and I'm at home with they kids every weekend.
I've asked him if he wants to go out for a change, but he says no, am too tired. Last weekend his friend called and asked him and he said, "ok, be around in two." that was 5 minutes after I asked him and to make it worse, he asks me to drop him off and pick him up which I do and now also with his friends.
Also I am only 24 so I love to have sex and I have a very high sex drive and always have. He is 34 and it just seems to me that he can't be bothered anymore. I don't think he is cheating either but I don't know. I have asked and he said I'm being stupid. I've also even asked him if he masturbates and he says "no, I've never done that in my life." so now I feel I'm disgusting and revolting and it's frustrating, as he always moans that I don't look happy, but I tell him use what you have and maybe I would be.
He'll change the subject -- he always changes the subject when I try talk about it. Its also annoying as all the boys I grew up with have always tried it on with me as I turn around as a joke cause we all grew up together and it would be weird. I have people trying to chat me up even when I go to shop in pj's for a packet of ciggies.
I just can't take anymore please help :(