We are in relationship from 3 years. She doesn't show transparency in relationship. She hides lots of things like texting to her classmates, maintaining accounts in social networking sites, and chatting with lots of boys in college. But I myself known these things and warned her. She left every thing. Even she dressed very odd some times and I told her how to dress up. She got some infection in stomach and I restricted from eating some junk foods. I usually care her. But she said these things make her hurt and wants to breakup with me.

How come its possible I don't know. I really loved her very much and even I gave full satisfaction in sex. Now she is adding lots of boys in Facebook may be to irritate me and she told to all her friends about the breakup. I even requested her, pleased, I bowed her by touching her feet too. I am broke and took pills and I had cut my nerves too. But still I am alive and don't know what to do.

Its really hard for me to forget but how girls can blame a true love, who will punish them.Please help me out. My life was ruined and ends in vain.

I know break ups do hurt and it's very hard to handle. But you must always know that things will be okay. It may be really hard to believe, but there are many girls out there that would love a boyfriend that cares about her and does anything to help her out. She may not be the right one for you and its better to let her go. If I were to put myself in your scenario I wouldn't like a girlfriend that chats with all kinds of boys. To me it sounds like she's not really committed. Do not hurt yourself for that will not do much. I know you are in pain but there are many girls out there, just give it time and soon enough you'll be back on track with a girl who appreciates all you will do for her.

1. You told her
2. You warned her
3. You told her

I will assume you are not in the US but in a culture where women are treated differently.

But to be honest your behaviour would chase most women off. You talk, you discuss, She is not a child and should not be treated as such by you.

And you will move on, and find someone else, perhaps professional counseling to help you with all of this

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Originally Posted by vedavyas

But i myself known these things and warned her.she left every thing.Even she dressed very odd some times and i told her how to dress up.she got some infection in stomach and i restricted from eating some junk foods.i usually care her.But she said these things make her hurt and wants to breakup with me.How come its possible i don't know.

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She doesn't need you to tell her what to eat, how to dress and so forth - you restricted her food intake? Anyway, she presumably has parents who raised her so she doesn't need your help (in raising her) at this point in her life.

You are WAY too controlling.

You need to speak to a mental health professional - unless you change your next relationship is going to go the same way this relationship went.

I don't know where you are at but hurting yourself over a female only prevent you from learning, and getting better and having a chance with another female.

Get some help with hurting yourself, and your impulse to control another human being. That's not showing love, that's slavery which she obviously didn't like.

Where I come from its abuse, so don't do it. Now heal, and pay heed to the lessons you learned, and do better next time.