I am a girl, and I just found out the guy I have a crush on is gay. I felt a bit sad. He just broke up with his boyfriend and is feeling a bit fragile. He tells me he loves me and kissed me on the cheek today. I was so happy but he then said that he kisses all of his best friends (that are girls) on the cheek. I felt very depressed. Should I tell him how I feel?

We are always together, joking around, shopping, going out places. I am just wondering whether he feels anything toward me. He kissed me once but he acts like it never happened, he tells me he loves me but I don't think its true what do I do?

If he is gay I wouldn't, and if he said he kisses his BEST FRIENDS on the cheek, you wouldn't want to lose that

You could always say, in a lighthearted manner, something like: "It's too bad that you are gay as I've got the biggest crush on you!"

Just don't expect anything more from him so that you aren't disappointed. Enjoy the friendship you have! Sounds like he can use a good friend right now.

I would not tell him. He is already going through emotional stuff breaking up with his boy friend, you don't want to add to it.
Be his friend. If you can't do that without bringing in your feelings, leave him alone.

You should be able to talk to him about anything if you two are best friends. However, if you are wanting a romantic relationship, I wouldn't hold my breath.

How old are you, and how old is this kid?

The plus side of all of this is, you are talking about it- even if its here. You are thinking about what to do, and how to deal with your feelings for your friend.

It is important, for your friendship to continue, that you realize that unless he says otherwise, which he likely won't, accepting that he is gay, means you will not have a romantic relationship with him. That you feel comfortable, know him to be a reliable, fun friend, will not change the nature of your relationship.

But, you have what sounds like a good friendship, that would be a shame to lose. You could do far worse than having a good friend in your life.

You cannot change him, but you can tell him that you have had confusing feelings for him. Perhaps talking to him directly will result in a good, honest talk, where he can tell you how important you are to him, and how much he values you in his life, but that is as far as it will go. Then, then guessing is over.

You will feel better having an answer, and hopefully, you can instead nurture this friendship knowing that honesty is shared, and he has not run away, or severed ties completely with you. For all you know, he is picking up on your romantic interest, and hoping it will pass. Clearing the air will set the record straight, and you will both know where you stand.

Then you can get on with the friendship, and enjoy eachothers company.

Just because you have a crush on someone doesn't mean its going to blossom into romance so you talk as friends so he knows how you feel, and won't lead you on, or allow you to get carried away.

Its easy to have a crush on friends of the opposite sex that you spend a lot of time with. But he did tell you he has other best friends, and kisses them too. And he is gay, and probably has a broken heart, and need friendship and be away from guys for a while.

Geo 1998

Tell him frankly and honestly, what you feel about him. Treat him as a friend, and he will surely anticipate it. I shall not favour the kissing or sex, but yeah, share ideas, talk, roam about and relish the life. Friendhsip is a bliss. Enjoy it.


Good luck!

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The OP is 14 and the person they are in love with is also 14.

Will that change anyone's answers ?

I think you just need to be his friend. Keep your feelings out of it. He just broke up with someone, it is not about you.
It is not always necessary to express everything you feel and at 14 you don't always know what you're feeling. Be his friend.

Don't tell him you love him. First what would you expect him to do? Say he loves you back and you go walking hand in hand into the sunset? That isn't going to happen. He is gay and he thought well enough of you to actually come out to you which should tell you that he is comfortable and secure in your friendship. Telling him that you love him would only make him feel uncomfortable and he may pull away. I would recommend you take some time away from him to get over these feelings until you can go back to being a good friend. Otherwise, if you can't do that then tell him how you feel and explain this is why you cannot be friends with him any longer and move on. Sorry but this issue is yours and not his fault.

I did tell him and now we are even better friends. He was shocked but was sweet to me and didn't be mean. All he said was that he could kinds tell. Now we are even better friends, always messaging each other, always out together. I got over him and now I am HAPPY!^^

Glad to hear that it worked out so well for you... :)